itismeinnz
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Smile. Eye contact. (those two go a long way)
If you want him to come over....look at him a few times, smile, and "invite" with your body language.
or...if you're the more assertive type....
Go tell him you've never tried whatever beer he's drinking and ask if it's any good. Or...ask for a light if you smoke. Or....ask about the game on TV.....nothing too personal because women can sound like creeps too.
You've fairly well summmed it up very well GY. Eye contact (for me that's almost always where it begins). Body language (is there any kind of connection here at all?). Conversation.
How it is for me, but I wonder if it is possibly fairly typical. In terms of being assertive, I have never been confident at trying to do what I guess some would term a pick-up line from stone cold nothing. Yet I'd call myself quite assertive (perhaps confident is a better way, more relaxed sounding than assertive) once I detect some subtle cue that there are signs of life here. That cue might be nothing more than a brief eye-contact, casual remark... anything.
But what is it that I'm looking for anyway? To be out on the town it is extremely likely that I'm in town for work, possibly for several weeks. A work colleague and I were discussing recently the way in which casual contact then becomes really meaningful. You're probably working frickin hard, out of your own environment... you kind of crave "normality". That's why you tip waitresses really well who show that extra bit of interest in you. They're just doing a job, but to me it's significant.
So back to meeting a woman.. deep down I personally most want real human contact. Although at one level I might be thinking "fuck, she is hot!", far more significant is a developing sense of "I could really get a kick out of spending some time with this person." Hang out, do some things together. I can honestly say that for me "Yee haaa, I might be in for a bonk tonight" is not my dominant thought. Though I would be dishonest of course if I never admitted that waking up between their sheets would be a very nice part of this hanging out doing a few things.
But the gist of what I'm getting at is... ummm.. might be just how I am, but the interaction has to start feeling relaxed and natural quite quickly. I guess for some the conquest or seduction game or whatever is part of some thrill, but to me a real twinkle in an eye as you start to discover that you can make each other really smile goes a fucking long way towards having a good night with someone.