LostBabygirl3489
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Hello everyone. I hope everyone has a good holiday tomorrow.
I guess I have an issue that's been bothering me for quite some time and I need some advice. I used to post on here a lot a few months ago and I stopped when I found my partner. Before that time, though, I was avidly searching for a dom primarily, but sometimes seeking a sub. I look back now and realize that I was being too picky and that I should have broadened my search to people that live far from me, but oh well.
Anyway, I feel really guilty for saying this but I kind of wish I wasn't in a relationship right now. I've been working really hard to claim my body back and with patience and perseverance, I have done so. In the past, men would be enamored by my sultry selfies and I would try to warn them that I don't look as good in person, fearing that they would get disappointed, and I was almost always right. I don't blame them for disliking my heavier self, but if I were to start searching again now, I don't think I'd encounter the same problem.
But I have a partner. And while I don't judge anyone that is partnered and has an extramarital affair, I can't bring myself to do it. It's just not worth it to me. But I can't deny that my kinky side is extremely depressed and neglected. I haven't felt this lost and confused in such a long time.
It also doesn't help that my partner is trans (a transwoman) and I was ignorant before, deluded by porn, thinking I could pleasure her orally and bring her to orgasm that way. With HRT, though, it's really hard for her sustain an erection and come from oral. I can't stroke her because she's extremely sensitive and it hurts her. I really love sucking cock and I'm kind of obsessed with cum and well, I feel really dissatisfied and just sad. Bringing pleasure to my partner is extremely important.
Thankfully, I've talked to her about all this and she hasn't gotten upset or anything. But I don't really see a solution to this. I really think that I am a very kinky person and she is pretty much vanilla. She seems excited by the thought of hooking up with a guy while I watch, but she doesn't want me touching the guy at all. So I can't really satisfy my fetishes/kinks at all.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm so lost.
I guess I have an issue that's been bothering me for quite some time and I need some advice. I used to post on here a lot a few months ago and I stopped when I found my partner. Before that time, though, I was avidly searching for a dom primarily, but sometimes seeking a sub. I look back now and realize that I was being too picky and that I should have broadened my search to people that live far from me, but oh well.
Anyway, I feel really guilty for saying this but I kind of wish I wasn't in a relationship right now. I've been working really hard to claim my body back and with patience and perseverance, I have done so. In the past, men would be enamored by my sultry selfies and I would try to warn them that I don't look as good in person, fearing that they would get disappointed, and I was almost always right. I don't blame them for disliking my heavier self, but if I were to start searching again now, I don't think I'd encounter the same problem.
But I have a partner. And while I don't judge anyone that is partnered and has an extramarital affair, I can't bring myself to do it. It's just not worth it to me. But I can't deny that my kinky side is extremely depressed and neglected. I haven't felt this lost and confused in such a long time.
It also doesn't help that my partner is trans (a transwoman) and I was ignorant before, deluded by porn, thinking I could pleasure her orally and bring her to orgasm that way. With HRT, though, it's really hard for her sustain an erection and come from oral. I can't stroke her because she's extremely sensitive and it hurts her. I really love sucking cock and I'm kind of obsessed with cum and well, I feel really dissatisfied and just sad. Bringing pleasure to my partner is extremely important.
Thankfully, I've talked to her about all this and she hasn't gotten upset or anything. But I don't really see a solution to this. I really think that I am a very kinky person and she is pretty much vanilla. She seems excited by the thought of hooking up with a guy while I watch, but she doesn't want me touching the guy at all. So I can't really satisfy my fetishes/kinks at all.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. I'm so lost.