Women who like to be taken forcefully

Great point! Isn't it funny how we can talk to a perfect stranger on here about our fantasies via PM and not our partners? I remember in the 90s going on a Cruise and this lady told me she just had a threesome and her friend had a Gang bang the first day of the cruise. She loved going on Cruises because she could have sex with strangers and not worry about being judged. When you tell a stranger you like to be tied up, if he rolls his eyes or looks at you in shock, you don't get hurt. You just ask or share your fantasy with someone else.

Unfortunately things are different when you are in a relationship. That is why many couples like to have sex before marriage so they can discuss/talk/explore fantasies before things get serious. After you are in a relationship there is always the concern or worry your partner will not like, enjoy, or Judge your fantasies.

Think of it this way. Imagine someone tells you their fantasy. Sit in front of a mirror when you hear it. I am sure there may be some eyebrow raising on your part. No matter what your reaction, your loving partner may take it differently than if you were a stranger.


ES


There is a series of books that started with My Secret Garden, that is a compilation of letters from mostly women discussing fantasies and secret desires on many sexual issues. I found it very illuminating for a man, both in understanding women's fantasies and my own. I have shared it with women, and it has been great for letting them relax about their particular fantasies and desires, and getting past self judgement for fantasies and desires. Of course, some of the subjects are forceful sex, submission, etc., and it has at least let to experimentation.
 
Forcefully

If just asked I would have and do swear there is no way I do, will or have enjoyed being taken forcefully sexually. Now that being said under the right circumstances and the right person I have loved every single second of the evening, night or weekend when it has happened. So I am either telling myself a story or I haven't committed to what I really enjoy.
 
Being taken

I have experienced taking,I can switch and it really depends on the person I am playing with. However it is my favourite thing to be taken. To utterly belong to and be controled. Everyday life makes you have to make so many decisions. There is nothing better than giving into the animal drive. To see the need and want in their eyes and let them take you.

A few men do this well but there also has to for me be trust, especially if tied. So you give yourself over to the trust and sercum to the needs and wants of another. In turn feeding your needs of lustful desire and pleasure.
 
Great point! Isn't it funny how we can talk to a perfect stranger on here about our fantasies via PM and not our partners?

Funny the way the human mind works ;) I think there's sort of a continuum of acceptance and investment in relationships. If you've been with someone a long time and have invested yourself in that relationship, you're less likely to want to rock the boat with a potentially uncomfortable conversation. The desire to continue enjoying that person's acceptance and care can outweigh the desire to share the most secret parts of yourself. (I think this might be part of how people in long relationships eventually feel they've "grown apart"... not so much that they've actually grown in different directions, but the more they discover themselves, and don't share that with each other, the more distance seems to come between them?)

Personally, I kind of enjoy shocking people in that 'strangers on a plane' scenario. I don't worry about their acceptance and I'll never see them again, so there's no need to pretend to be what they expect.

(Thoughts brought to you by entirely too much time to think today, I guess!)
 
I always have the best orgasms when I’m taken forcefully! It’s so hot when they know what they want and just take it.
 
Funny the way the human mind works ;) I think there's sort of a continuum of acceptance and investment in relationships. If you've been with someone a long time and have invested yourself in that relationship, you're less likely to want to rock the boat with a potentially uncomfortable conversation. The desire to continue enjoying that person's acceptance and care can outweigh the desire to share the most secret parts of yourself. (I think this might be part of how people in long relationships eventually feel they've "grown apart"... not so much that they've actually grown in different directions, but the more they discover themselves, and don't share that with each other, the more distance seems to come between them?)

Personally, I kind of enjoy shocking people in that 'strangers on a plane' scenario. I don't worry about their acceptance and I'll never see them again, so there's no need to pretend to be what they expect.

(Thoughts brought to you by entirely too much time to think today, I guess!)

That is a great description of why we don't share, we are invested in the relationship. I know it is hard to do, but I feel it is important and I would consider it not opening up or lack of communication with your partner.

When I was in my 20's and 30's I had some of the best sex with women in that "strangers on a plane" scenario. It was literally because they acted from their inner desires and we not ashamed of them. It is very similar to a man acting on his carnal desires and "taking" his woman. To be on the receiving end of all that desire, lust, and hunger can be very hot.

ES
 
There is a series of books that started with My Secret Garden, that is a compilation of letters from mostly women discussing fantasies and secret desires on many sexual issues. I found it very illuminating for a man, both in understanding women's fantasies and my own. I have shared it with women, and it has been great for letting them relax about their particular fantasies and desires, and getting past self judgement for fantasies and desires. Of course, some of the subjects are forceful sex, submission, etc., and it has at least let to experimentation.

I have read many of her books. I think the author is Lonnie Barbach. She came out with several books of women's fantasies and they were all very Hot. She also came out with at least one book of Men's fantasies. That was a great read too. Reading other peoples fantasies and the discussion after was very helpful in understanding my own.

ES
 
I absolutely love when a man takes control. When he can force me on my knees and makes me beg for his cock. He makes me want it so badly..and it turns me on so much to know that I pleased him.
 
two cents

I can offer my two cents based on what I have seen from my partners, and particularly from my girlfriend.

She says that she wants to feel that I "own" her, that her "holes" are mine, that I am "ravishing" her. She growls and becomes primal prey. She wants me to pull her hair while I fuck her from behind so hard that she chokes just from the angle of her neck. She wants me to grab her face and spit in her mouth, calling her daddy's whore.

Maybe it takes her to a place from when she was raped, abused, molested. Maybe it makes her feel like the ultimate object of desire to see someone lose "his manners" and turn into a primal predator purely because of her worth.

Or, maybe, I don't quite understand.
 
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Excellent quote. Insightful.

My thoughts on this topic are neatly summed up by Anais Nin:

“I do not want to be the leader. I refuse to be the leader. I want to live darkly and richly in my femaleness. I want a man lying over me, always over me. His will, his pleasure, his desire, his life, his work, his sexuality the touchstone, the command, my pivot. I don’t mind working, holding my ground intellectually, artistically; but as a woman, oh, God, as a woman I want to be dominated. I don’t mind being told to stand on my own feet, not to cling, be all that I am capable of doing, but I am going to be pursued, fucked, possessed by the will of a male at his time, his bidding.”
 
While some people come at the idea from a dom/sub dynamic or a power exchange or a top/bottom situations, there are also those that simply enjoy the kink or fetish of rougher sex and its various possible implements.

On another site, there are countless available labels and many discussion threads about primal/prey... this is the level or layer that resonates with me. It makes me incredibly desirable and excited to feel like the ultimate object of someone's desire - to see someone lose his manners and turn into a primal predator purely because of his attraction to me... it's incredibly hot.

I love to be used as he likes whilst we are fucking, my limits are quite flexible and yes, the harder the pounding, the better. Bite me, choke me, pull my hair, tie me up, restrain me with your hands, clutch my body to yours. Ravish me, yes, call me slut or whore, but call me YOUR slut or YOUR whore - I don't behave this way for just anyone.

After we are done, I love to hear how happy he is with me and how much he loves me. It makes me feel worthy in some way to know how much I have pleased him by being his plaything, his personal porn star. Then back to everyday life, back to my 'normal' 'usual' assertive self - I already know that I please him in various ways outside the bedroom and that he holds me always in the highest regard and deeply respects my abilities and skills in regards to my career and such. Then I am back to being more of a 'I know what I like type' of personality but more often than not, in the bedroom take that control away from me please, oh please... yes yeesss YES!!!

Anais Nin said it better and more poetically and with fewer words, LOL
 
I guess I'm unique, I don't like soft and the harsher I'm taken, the more I'm turned on.

You’re certainly not unique in that regard. Many women find being handled aggressively and roughly far more arousing and satisfying than more gentle sex. The challenge is finding men who truly understand that need and are willing to meet it.
 
While some people come at the idea from a dom/sub dynamic or a power exchange or a top/bottom situations, there are also those that simply enjoy the kink or fetish of rougher sex and its various possible implements.

On another site, there are countless available labels and many discussion threads about primal/prey... this is the level or layer that resonates with me. It makes me incredibly desirable and excited to feel like the ultimate object of someone's desire - to see someone lose his manners and turn into a primal predator purely because of his attraction to me... it's incredibly hot.

I love to be used as he likes whilst we are fucking, my limits are quite flexible and yes, the harder the pounding, the better. Bite me, choke me, pull my hair, tie me up, restrain me with your hands, clutch my body to yours. Ravish me, yes, call me slut or whore, but call me YOUR slut or YOUR whore - I don't behave this way for just anyone.

After we are done, I love to hear how happy he is with me and how much he loves me. It makes me feel worthy in some way to know how much I have pleased him by being his plaything, his personal porn star. Then back to everyday life, back to my 'normal' 'usual' assertive self - I already know that I please him in various ways outside the bedroom and that he holds me always in the highest regard and deeply respects my abilities and skills in regards to my career and such. Then I am back to being more of a 'I know what I like type' of personality but more often than not, in the bedroom take that control away from me please, oh please... yes yeesss YES!!!

Anais Nin said it better and more poetically and with fewer words, LOL

Actually, I think you put it better. :rose:
 
To be honest i think it's the roughness that most ladies like that's probably why they all like it to some degree. I've always been primarily dominant, but in a soft lady like type of way, i like to have things my way too, but i also like the roughness of a guy having his way with me too, the only problem is sometimes i get rough back, i'm very naughty like that, i don't like to give up as quickly. :rose: I have both a dominant and a submissive side if that makes any sense. :rose:
 
To be honest i think it's the roughness that most ladies like that's probably why they all like it to some degree. I've always been primarily dominant, but in a soft lady like type of way, i like to have things my way too, but i also like the roughness of a guy having his way with me too, the only problem is sometimes i get rough back, i'm very naughty like that, i don't like to give up as quickly. :rose: I have both a dominant and a submissive side if that makes any sense. :rose:

That makes total sense to me. You sound like an awesome lady.
 
On another site, there are countless available labels and many discussion threads about primal/prey... this is the level or layer that resonates with me. It makes me incredibly desirable and excited to feel like the ultimate object of someone's desire - to see someone lose his manners and turn into a primal predator purely because of his attraction to me... it's incredibly hot.

These are some great words. A good reason why so many of us have quoted you.

I guess the key is putting someone, your partner into such a fog of lust, they go crazy with desire for you and just "take" you. To some degree, you are the bullfighter with the red cape, because you help create/build the desire. You flash the red garment around knowing he is getting more and more excited. His desire builds and eventually he attacks you. You do not run or dodge the assault, but welcome it. That out of control, lusty, release of physical pleasure and emotion is something you helped create. So it is flattering and very hot to be the subject of it.

The roughness seems to be an indicator of the level of loss of control. The rougher he is, the more out of control and in lust with you he is.

And I can see how this scene can be translated by the woman as "he wants her no matter what!" It is the comments after, about how good she made him feel, and how good he feels to be with her that underlines this.


ES
 
Fun times

I love it when my husband takes full control but he is not into this as much as I am. We only it a few times a year.
 
love to be forcefully taken

I love when my hubby ties me up n then make me beg for his cock.....specially b4 his friends. it makes me feel so sexy n slutty that every time i cum just begging to take me.
 
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