Now that my kids are older (teenagers) I wonder how my D/s relationship with my husband will affect their perspective of relationships. I know D/s is not for everyone and do not instill any of our personal preferences/perceptions about the details/rituals of ours into my sons.
However:
They see me give Him first choice of everything.
They hear Him command me with a simple statement ("door" or "drink" or "shoes") and have for years watched me comply.
They hear Him address me as "girl" or "woman" and see me respond positively.
They see me kneeling at His feet with my head resting on His lap all the time.
They have seen him lead me around with his hand on the back of my neck.
And this is us putting effort into subtlety. I have two main concerns: that someday maybe one of my sons will come across a more dominant "independent" type woman, attempt to pull this stuff off and get punched in the face. OR that they will decide that our relationship is "bad" because he does not treat me as an equal. (One of them already alludes to this.)
Does anyone else have older kids? Just wondering how other people do it. I can't imagine us compromising any more than we already do- it would require an incredible amount of effort...
However:
They see me give Him first choice of everything.
They hear Him command me with a simple statement ("door" or "drink" or "shoes") and have for years watched me comply.
They hear Him address me as "girl" or "woman" and see me respond positively.
They see me kneeling at His feet with my head resting on His lap all the time.
They have seen him lead me around with his hand on the back of my neck.
And this is us putting effort into subtlety. I have two main concerns: that someday maybe one of my sons will come across a more dominant "independent" type woman, attempt to pull this stuff off and get punched in the face. OR that they will decide that our relationship is "bad" because he does not treat me as an equal. (One of them already alludes to this.)
Does anyone else have older kids? Just wondering how other people do it. I can't imagine us compromising any more than we already do- it would require an incredible amount of effort...