My 22 yr old daughter just asked to blow me!!!!

Okay, I'll admit it. I'm at a complete loss for words about what I should do. My 22 yr old daughter just asked if she could give me a blowjob. And I mean she just asked as in - she just asked within the last ten minutes while I was cruising the boards here on Literotica.com and I don't know what I should or shouldn't do about it. Should I tell her mom (who is also my wife)? Should I just let her do it? Lord knows I'm hard and would love a bj and since my wife is sleeping and not feeling well b-cuz her allergies are acting up and all - should I do it?

HELP!

BrandDickens said:

Okay, I'll admit it. I'm at a complete loss for words about what I should do. My 22 yr old daughter just asked if she could give me a blowjob. And I mean she just asked as in - she just asked within the last ten minutes while I was cruising the boards here on Literotica.com and I don't know what I should or shouldn't do about it. Should I tell her mom (who is also my wife)? Should I just let her do it? Lord knows I'm hard and would love a bj and since my wife is sleeping and not feeling well b-cuz her allergies are acting up and all - should I do it?

HELP!

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Do it enjoy it

Follow your instincts. That is the most sound advice anyone can offer.
Only you know what is best.

Wow! Wish mine would ask me!

I call Bullshit.

She has her head on her shoulders and can make her decision.

Now you need to make yours. Do you want to do it behind the back of your wife? How would she feel if she knew? It's basically cheating on your wife with another woman, and I don't think that being your daughter makes it any better - worse in many people's eyes.

It's up to you to decide what to do.

Semler said:

I call Bullshit.

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You'd be amazed, happy travels discovering.


The worst part about dating a mature woman, is that they have Millenial kids, and either them, or their girlfriends, start 'competing' for an older Alpha male's attention. Occasionally though...well 22yr old tits are pretty fucking fantastic.

Just keep the campfire rule in mind...always leave better than you found it.

Theoretical answer: It's deeply unethical, no matter how old your children are. It's unethical for the same reason that it's unethical for a doctor to have sex with their patients, no matter the patients age.

Actual answer: Keep your fiction to the designated areas.

Absolutely not. Certain lines should never be crossed.

Theoretical answer: It's deeply unethical, no matter how old your children are. It's unethical for the same reason that it's unethical for a doctor to have sex with their patients, no matter the patients age.

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I am that guy who when he hears that something is unethical always asks: WHY?

I mean, in most cases there is a definite answer because there's some harm to be done. But here, I don't really understand.

Hypothetically, if a daughter wants that, and a farther wants that too, and suppose there's no one who gets cheated on in that situation - then where's the problem? Incest if often unethical because it's (in most cases) an abuse.
But if it's not, if no one is left unsatisfied or sad - then what's so unethical about it?

I don't understand. Maybe I'm too cynical for this, but I really don't. They are two adults, both have their own brains and are able to think for themselves.

Again, I'm talking about hypothetical sicuation here because you said it's ALWAYS unethical.

Because of the power imbalance, there can never be true consent. And yes, ideally and theoretically, at 22 a woman is supposed to be fully independent and free of a parents influence. In reality, there are in my opinion just too many factors and blurred lines.

Do not a lot of people feel some extra pressure to "respect" our parents? I know I do. It's written in many holy texts, which serve as a major influence to our cultures. There certainly is a lot of pressure from society to respect your parents. And don't get me wrong, I think it's a good thing (most of the time) to respect your parents. I'm just pointing out that this is one way a parent holds power over an adult child.

Another example: what about loans and inheritance? What if a parent threatens to disown an adult child if they don't do as they're told? What if a parent offers to help with the costs of stuying, only to pull some skeezy shit after the arrangement has been made? What if an adult child can't afford to live by themselves - sadly common enough these days - and can choose between homelessness and putting up with a parents abuse?

Lastly, if we accept that a child is fully independent and free of their parents' influence the moment they turn 18 (or 21), there will be parents who purposefully raise their children to ensure that they're still (mentally and/or financially) fully under the sway of their parents at that age, so they can sexually abuse them, and it would be "acceptable". It's called "grooming."

There are countless ways a parent continues to hold power over their children, even after they reach legal age. For that reason, there can never be true consent, and sex without consent is rape.

If one has fantasies about getting a BJ from your adult child, just do as the OP has done here, and make up some fictional shit to get off to. Label it correctly and make sure folks know what they're getting into.

Morning update - nothing ended up happening last night but I feel like I should give a bit of an explanation about it all. Last night I had been cruising the boards and stories here on Literotica.com while sipping on a bit of wine. I've been sitting behind the desk in my little office space downstairs and needed another glass. I had not realized our daughter had come home early b-cuz she usually is out late on weekends except she had to work yesterday and didn't feel like going out after work. So I'm casually strolling from point A to point B, my office space to the kitchen, and I'm not thinking much about the hardon I'm sporting b-cuz I'm thinking I have the house to myself, except for my wife who I know was upstairs sleeping hard b-cuz of all the allergy medicine she's taking.

We're talking full tent mode to the front of my shorts as I strolled into the kitchen for another glass of wine and the unexpected eyeful I gave our daughter of my swollen hardon stretching out the front of my shorts and I am blaming all of you wonderful horny folks for making me that way, lol! She stared right at my hardon, laughed, and said something like, "Looking good Daddy." I quickly opened the door to the refrigerator and sort of hid behind it as I filled my wine glass. She asked if I was watching porn and rather than try to deny what was obvious, I said yes and then she suggested, "Pull it out and I'll suck it." Like an idiot I said "I'm fine" and she said "I'm serious." And I said "I'm fine and I left the kitchen from the other door and took the long way through the dining room to get back to my office where I made that post from last night. Now I'm wondering if I should tell my wife or not about it. :-/

I'd let it be if I were you. No need in pulling your wife into something she's not going to like -- and you know if she'd freak out or not. If it's a fantasy you enjoy, get yourself off to the memory or the "what could've been" as often as you want, but don't fuck up your real life because you thought with your dick instead of your brain.

Just my two cents.

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Because of the power imbalance, there can never be true consent. .

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what if there is true consent? You are talking about hypothetical bad situations where a father blackmails the daughter to have sex. Its true. That happens.

Let's talk about a hypothetical good situation for a change. Both are adult. Both want to have sex. Both thought about it. Both are decent people and care for each other more than sexually, so there's no backstabbing, coercing, molesting or blackmailing involved.
I can picture such situation to myself.
Will that be immoral too?

Also many successful relationships have a HUGE power imbalance too. For example if one is rich and the other poor. Or if one is famous and influential. You don't mean to say that there is never true consent between them?

Sounds like the offer may still be on the table. You could always make another wine trip with a tent and see what she says, definitely didn't sound bothered by seeing you or knowing you were watching porn.

BrandDickens said:

Morning update - nothing ended up happening last night but I feel like I should give a bit of an explanation about it all. Last night I had been cruising the boards and stories here on Literotica.com while sipping on a bit of wine. I've been sitting behind the desk in my little office space downstairs and needed another glass. I had not realized our daughter had come home early b-cuz she usually is out late on weekends except she had to work yesterday and didn't feel like going out after work. So I'm casually strolling from point A to point B, my office space to the kitchen, and I'm not thinking much about the hardon I'm sporting b-cuz I'm thinking I have the house to myself, except for my wife who I know was upstairs sleeping hard b-cuz of all the allergy medicine she's taking.

We're talking full tent mode to the front of my shorts as I strolled into the kitchen for another glass of wine and the unexpected eyeful I gave our daughter of my swollen hardon stretching out the front of my shorts and I am blaming all of you wonderful horny folks for making me that way, lol! She stared right at my hardon, laughed, and said something like, "Looking good Daddy." I quickly opened the door to the refrigerator and sort of hid behind it as I filled my wine glass. She asked if I was watching porn and rather than try to deny what was obvious, I said yes and then she suggested, "Pull it out and I'll suck it." Like an idiot I said "I'm fine" and she said "I'm serious." And I said "I'm fine and I left the kitchen from the other door and took the long way through the dining room to get back to my office where I made that post from last night. Now I'm wondering if I should tell my wife or not about it. :-/

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I call grade 'A' BS, But the event that this is 100% legit, I say you have won the internet for today!

Nezhul said:

what if there is true consent?

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My point is that that's just straight up not possible, because of the power imbalance. But I feel like this is a "agree to disagree" sitation, so I'm leaving the discussion. Said what I feel I need to say.

The thing about this situation is: when it's over, you both need to live with your decision. As well, the previous posters who've mentioned the fact that it's cheating aren't wrong. It might be different if your wife was in on it and was okay with it. You don't know that that's the case, and such big secrets have a tendency not to stay secrets forever.

Even if your daughter truly is serious, once the deed is over, her attitude could change. You can't be certain it won't. And regardless if she's the one who actually instigated it, if she DOES change her mind, it can mean VERY bad things for you., not just with your wife, but with the legal system as well.

Just be very, very careful, and try to consider every possible repercussion if the subject arises again.

I don't know about all of that shit BUT...

My thoughts are that your wife can go her whole live without her knowing about last night or in the future id anything does happen.

If she does give you a blowjob she is probably going to want to ride for a while or you are going to want to eat her out... just the way it goes.

There are few thing that can fuck up a relationship like fucking some woman's
daughter,sister, mother or aunt or any other relative when you are with them!

I wish I didn't know this first hand! But it is a sad fact that you have only about a 30% chance if it NOT blowing up in your face.

Whatever you do, do it like a man.

BrandDickens said:

Morning update - nothing ended up happening last night but I feel like I should give a bit of an explanation about it all. Last night I had been cruising the boards and stories here on Literotica.com while sipping on a bit of wine. I've been sitting behind the desk in my little office space downstairs and needed another glass. I had not realized our daughter had come home early b-cuz she usually is out late on weekends except she had to work yesterday and didn't feel like going out after work. So I'm casually strolling from point A to point B, my office space to the kitchen, and I'm not thinking much about the hardon I'm sporting b-cuz I'm thinking I have the house to myself, except for my wife who I know was upstairs sleeping hard b-cuz of all the allergy medicine she's taking.

We're talking full tent mode to the front of my shorts as I strolled into the kitchen for another glass of wine and the unexpected eyeful I gave our daughter of my swollen hardon stretching out the front of my shorts and I am blaming all of you wonderful horny folks for making me that way, lol! She stared right at my hardon, laughed, and said something like, "Looking good Daddy." I quickly opened the door to the refrigerator and sort of hid behind it as I filled my wine glass. She asked if I was watching porn and rather than try to deny what was obvious, I said yes and then she suggested, "Pull it out and I'll suck it." Like an idiot I said "I'm fine" and she said "I'm serious." And I said "I'm fine and I left the kitchen from the other door and took the long way through the dining room to get back to my office where I made that post from last night. Now I'm wondering if I should tell my wife or not about it. :-/

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Even though she is a legal adult, you are a disgusting human if your daughter gives you a hard on.

BrandDickens said:

Okay, I'll admit it. I'm at a complete loss for words about what I should do. My 22 yr old daughter just asked if she could give me a blowjob. And I mean she just asked as in - she just asked within the last ten minutes while I was cruising the boards here on Literotica.com and I don't know what I should or shouldn't do about it. Should I tell her mom (who is also my wife)? Should I just let her do it? Lord knows I'm hard and would love a bj and since my wife is sleeping and not feeling well b-cuz her allergies are acting up and all - should I do it?

HELP!

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What you should do is sit back and enjoy it. My 42 year old daughter blows me regularly and I love it.

BrandDickens said:

Okay, I'll admit it. I'm at a complete loss for words about what I should do. My 22 yr old daughter just asked if she could give me a blowjob. And I mean she just asked as in - she just asked within the last ten minutes while I was cruising the boards here on Literotica.com and I don't know what I should or shouldn't do about it. Should I tell her mom (who is also my wife)? Should I just let her do it? Lord knows I'm hard and would love a bj and since my wife is sleeping and not feeling well b-cuz her allergies are acting up and all - should I do it?

HELP!

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Do YOU feel like there is something wrong with this scenario? My guess is yes you do. Otherwise, you wouldn't be asking a bunch of strangers for advice. If it felt right, you wouldn't be questioning if it was. Don't do anything impulsive that you could regret. Don't do anything that you aren't 100% comfortable with and 100% prepared to deal with all the possible outcomes of such action. Probably best if you just DON'T...

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Do YOU feel like there is something wrong with this scenario? My guess is yes you do. Otherwise, you wouldn't be asking a bunch of strangers for advice. If it felt right, you wouldn't be questioning if it was. Don't do anything impulsive that you could regret. Don't do anything that you aren't 100% comfortable with and 100% prepared to deal with all the possible outcomes of such action. Probably best if you just DON'T...

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I appreciate everyone's comments so far and I think I like this one best. As far as asking advice from a bunch of strangers, IDK, everyone on the internet is a stranger and this has felt like such a welcoming community for people with alternative viewpoints regarding sex and sexuality. I'm not looking for an enabler b-cuz I'm fine with enabling myself, lol! Still, how often do you find yourself in a conversation about a private matter with a virtual stranger - even if they started the conversation. That happens to me all the time and it's always interesting later when I reflect back upon everything one stranger was willing to tell another stranger who was willing to do nothing more than just listen.

Last night caught me off guard and it felt too close to other stories I've shared in other forums, or at least like the beginning to one of those other stories. I'm 46, same as my wife and our daughter is 22, which I guess you know already. We are very open about our sexuality in our household and always have been open about it. We're not nudist and my wife and I have always made it a point to keep things as age appropriate as we could. But we pee with the doors open around here, lol.

I was a little drunk last night - not a lot - just a little buzz and I was definitely horny which clearly showed. Our daughter (and her brother who is serving in the military right now) are allowed to be sexual beings and they know their parents are too and that their parents have an open relationship that we don't try to flaunt or hide from them. Sometimes Mommy goes out on a date without Daddy and vice versa is just something that has always happened around our house and no one thinks much about it.

Meanwhile, thank you everyone for all the words of support and/or console. You guys are the best!

BrandDickens said:

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Sometimes Mommy goes out on a date without Daddy and vice versa is just something that has always happened around our house and no one thinks much about it.
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In that case, the correct response is "bring me a note from your mother".