littlecordelera
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Having been involved in the swinger community for some time, I can tell you what the predominant opinion is in our circles.
A swinger (male) is a guy who thinks his wife is totally hot and wants to share her. He does not view himself as anything less than equal in all aspects.
A cuckold is a guy who believes he is sexually inferior to the other males having sex with his wife, and he wants her to have sex outside the marriage. He understands that people have differing abilities, and a marriage license does not change those abilities. No guy is a cuckold against his will, and if he doesn't know, he can't have ownership.
A lot of guys measure their masculinity by their perceived sexual performance. They think that is what makes them a "man," and it appears that most of them (from my experience on this site) are tremendously intimidated by the whole cuckold thing. Ironically, I've never met a cuckold that saw himself as merely a product of his sex life, and I've never met a cuckold who felt the need to lash out at others because of what they do in their bedroom. And I've met more than a few admitted cuckolds.
Is accepting that you may not be the best in bed less manly? Or is it more manly? Is a guy a "man" because he has chained his wife to his insecurities, or is a guy a "man" because he cares about her pleasure and he knows that their relationship is far deeper than their sex life?
A swinger (male) is a guy who thinks his wife is totally hot and wants to share her. He does not view himself as anything less than equal in all aspects.
A cuckold is a guy who believes he is sexually inferior to the other males having sex with his wife, and he wants her to have sex outside the marriage. He understands that people have differing abilities, and a marriage license does not change those abilities. No guy is a cuckold against his will, and if he doesn't know, he can't have ownership.
A lot of guys measure their masculinity by their perceived sexual performance. They think that is what makes them a "man," and it appears that most of them (from my experience on this site) are tremendously intimidated by the whole cuckold thing. Ironically, I've never met a cuckold that saw himself as merely a product of his sex life, and I've never met a cuckold who felt the need to lash out at others because of what they do in their bedroom. And I've met more than a few admitted cuckolds.
Is accepting that you may not be the best in bed less manly? Or is it more manly? Is a guy a "man" because he has chained his wife to his insecurities, or is a guy a "man" because he cares about her pleasure and he knows that their relationship is far deeper than their sex life?
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