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PrettyLilPussy19 said:
Well it looks like I'm going to be the one dissenting voice on this question to many degrees.
I have never masturbating in front of my partner. I've lent a helping hand but I've never just been watched. That feel very intense and vulnerable and scary.
I have masturbated him, however. I will always prefer oral but using lots of lube and getting him super slippery and shiny is a lot of fun. Also, no on the mutual masturbation.

Now, sharing porn and fantasies - it's funny, I share a lot of porn here. All of which I find incredible erotic and hot but I can't imagine ever sending my SO my porn. Not because either of us disapprove of porn but what I find erotic is so so far down the kink hole compared to what he likes. The few times I've broached the idea of my fantasies I mostly got teased so I just don't anymore. As far as online partners, beyond what I post I've rarely shared porn. (It's weird how personal it is for me.) And while some fantasies I'm okay sharing, there are some that will probably never leave my brain and that's okay.
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Mutual masturbation is my favorite reward for an online sub. If in person it is usually an every night thing. Masturbation in general is fun especially if she is watching. I also love to watch and will often tell my sub at the time to masturbate at random times. Yes to all.
 
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#31

Continuing Education & Mentors

We've talked about the past but what's the newest thing you've tried or learned about?
Have you ever been the one to teach someone something brand new to them?
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
#31

Continuing Education & Mentors

We've talked about the past but what's the newest thing you've tried or learned about?
Have you ever been the one to teach someone something brand new to them?
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I've learned to identify diamonds and qualities along with various gemstones lately, though I still struggle with it I hope to learn it enough to be able to do it without an aid.

As for something I've tried, some self anal play, nothing extreme yet but still new to me.



I've had the pleasure to teach some people a few things, the most rewarding was teaching someone how to meditate. Seeing the relaxation take hold once they started to get it was wonderful.
 
KamaKamaSutra said:
I've learned to identify diamonds and qualities along with various gemstones lately, though I still struggle with it I hope to learn it enough to be able to do it without an aid.

As for something I've tried, some self anal play, nothing extreme yet but still new to me.



I've had the pleasure to teach some people a few things, the most rewarding was teaching someone how to meditate. Seeing the relaxation take hold once they started to get it was wonderful.
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*whew!*

I'm glad you posted first, i was going to make my answer all about sex.

:eek:
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
#31

Continuing Education & Mentors

We've talked about the past but what's the newest thing you've tried or learned about?
Have you ever been the one to teach someone something brand new to them?
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The newest thing I’ve tried is leash play. I love it. As soon as everything is snapped into place, my jaw goes slack and my legs melt. My mind goes to that empty place I love so much, even before I cum.
I want more.

I don’t know if it’s considered “teaching”, but I’ve showed a man just how deeply and thoroughly I can worship him with my mouth. All of him.
 
AlwaysFara said:
The newest thing I’ve tried is leash play. I love it. As soon as everything is snapped into place, my jaw goes slack and my legs melt. My mind goes to that empty place I love so much, even before I cum.
I want more.

I don’t know if it’s considered “teaching”, but I’ve showed a man just how deeply and thoroughly I can worship him with my mouth. All of him.
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Hmmm....hot......go Fara
 
I've taught a few things to subs. I have also learned valuable lessons from them. I think it should be that way. Both parties involved should learn from each other. That way it makes the experience worthwhile for everyone. If you learn nothing then you're doing something wrong. Same for not teaching the sub.

I like to find out what other Doms have taught them and then make the sub unlearn it. No Dom is the same and I have a specific thing in mind for each sub. I like teaching the sub I'm with at the time. I find the process to be fun for both of us. I hope this helps and doesn't seem to be just me rambling on.
 
Bramblethorn said:
You might have something there. Any links on that concept? Googling pulls up a few posts from people describing themselves as empathetic sadists, but nothing very informative about what it looks like.
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Isn’t empathy the difference between sadism and just randomly hurting people?

AFAF...
 
Empathy doesn't always mean you have an emotional understanding of what someone feels, it also doesn't mean you feel the same as they do, just that you can understand what they are feeling.

I think all sadist are empathetic, I think if you enjoy the feeling your have to understand it which would imply empathy. Even psychopaths and sociopaths have empathy even if it is just to derive pleasure from their destructive habits. But empathy has multiple meanings and is a very broad term.

But I AM NOT A SHRINK lol
 
Mei5ter said:
Isn’t empathy the difference between sadism and just randomly hurting people?

AFAF...
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I’d say just randomly hurts people is sociopathy not sadism. Sadists know they are hurting people. Sociopaths either just don’t know or just don’t care.

And to some degree, part of being a sexual sadist - even emotionally sadist for sexual pleasure - is about sexuality not a natural state. Some of the bests sadists I’ve know (and been intimate with) have not been that way outside of play. The ones that have are what we’d all probably call dicks
 
AveryElle said:
I’d say just randomly hurts people is sociopathy not sadism. Sadists know they are hurting people. Sociopaths either just don’t know or just don’t care.

And to some degree, part of being a sexual sadist - even emotionally sadist for sexual pleasure - is about sexuality not a natural state. Some of the bests sadists I’ve know (and been intimate with) have not been that way outside of play. The ones that have are what we’d all probably call dicks
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Ahahaaaa!!!
 
Empathy is being able to identify and understand someone's emotions. Empathic sadism would then stand to mean that you cause, identify, understand, and get sexual satisfaction from those emotions and, presumably, will respect boundaries.

Sociopaths, from what I know, is just someone with a lack on conscience. They don't really care how they make people feel. Pair that with psychopath and then you have someone hurting people for fun and not giving a fuck.

I like my emotionally mature and empathetic sadists, myself.
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
Empathy is being able to identify and understand someone's emotions. Empathic sadism would then stand to mean that you cause, identify, understand, and get sexual satisfaction from those emotions and, presumably, will respect boundaries.

Sociopaths, from what I know, is just someone with a lack on conscience. They don't really care how they make people feel. Pair that with psychopath and then you have someone hurting people for fun and not giving a fuck.

I like my emotionally mature and empathetic sadists, myself.
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As do I.
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
Empathy is being able to identify and understand someone's emotions. Empathic sadism would then stand to mean that you cause, identify, understand, and get sexual satisfaction from those emotions and, presumably, will respect boundaries.

Sociopaths, from what I know, is just someone with a lack on conscience. They don't really care how they make people feel. Pair that with psychopath and then you have someone hurting people for fun and not giving a fuck.

I like my emotionally mature and empathetic sadists, myself.
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I consider myself to be an empathic sadist.
 
Stag of Oberon said:
That's just a Latin suffix that indicates a pathology. Technically "pathology" spans all health diseases or irregular symptomologies but referring to a person as a/an *prefix*-opath tends to be a mental health thing. In theory there should be "-opath" terminologies for autists and people suffering from depression or ADD, but the labeling of those symptomologies is recent enough that they were not named in Latin.

Which is to say "YOU'RE AN -OPATH SO THERE" *sticks tongue out*
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Greek, not Latin. As in πάθει μάθος - learning from pain.

*picks up riding crop and strokes it thoughtfully*
 
PrettyLilPussy19 said:
#31

Continuing Education & Mentors

We've talked about the past but what's the newest thing you've tried or learned about?
Have you ever been the one to teach someone something brand new to them?
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Re-tracking this train.

I meant the question to be aimed at kink but I love knowing all the random stuff you guys are learning! Non-kink I've been digging back into poetry and trying read more and get more inspired. And I teach a drama class to teenagers so I'm always mentoring but - kink wise -

New stuff - hair play. For a host of personal reasons, I find this crazy hot and submissive.
Teaching or explaining - emotional sadism/masochism. I'm no expert and can't really go into things that don't have personal bearing but it's been nice talking it out.
 
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