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duckandbunny79
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Part of me agrees part of me is "are you people for real?"
People do cyber/phone sex/look at porn who are married usually in order to keep FROM doing more outside the marriage.
This "you might as well be fucking him if you're talking about it" is so Christian and weird a morality to me. On my personal planet, talking and thinking do not equal doinking. It's all very "I have lusted in my heart."
Yeah, don't let your spouse feel neglected, talk to them, fix the marital problems etc. AND in the real world we live in, maybe dare to address some of your needs on your time. Whatever.
Women are more inclined (not always but often) to get emotionally involved with everyone who gives them an orgasm, but in truth I don't see anything here that isn't equivalent to guys who jack off to am pics and leave complimentary messages.
As I see it this person is NOT responsible for the hurt feeewings of his wife - he is and she is. Completely sexist whore-shaming bullshit that she should "think of his wife." Let him do it.
This person is responsible for her marriage, in which the message is pretty clear that her sexuality is of little importance. If everything-but-the-sex is hunky dory, then that's a quandary, if not, I can't imagine why anyone would hesitate to look elsewhere and/or move on - BUT it's not ME, guess what!
Everyone here seems to think that gross sexual incompatibility can be "worked through" - that's downright delusional.
I know one thing. If this person didn't have a female av, these responses would be SO much less "let's gleefully call out the slut".
I've not brought gender into this, in fact hardly anyone has apart from your good self. As far as I'm concerned this person could be male or female. Also you have to take this thread in conjunction with the previous, very similar thread, that did not shed the OP, as sharing of their experiences.
If they are just using the net as wank material then fair enough, but the OP, to me indicates wanting more than just a bit of online fun. In an ideal world everyone would share their fantasies with their partner/partners, but I accept that most people struggle to be honest with themselves never mind other people, who they may fear getting a negative reaction from.
I also accept that not all relationships work out, but I still don't see anything wrong with being honest and telling your partner that. Rather than being dishonest. I'm maybe miss reading between the lines, but to me this is not about something as small as having fantasies or masterbation thoughts, but over having a relationship that the OP suggests did they live closer would be more than simply sharing thoughts and ideas.
If a woman wants to masterbate, fuck as many men/women, or as few men/women as she feels like then that is her choice, same as it is for a man. But whether a man or a woman, if you have commited to someone to be commited soley to them, then in my opinion they should try to live up to that commitment and if not let go, regardless of whether we believe marrage is a valid lifestyle choice or not.
I'm sure if I sold you something, but did not deliver on my side of the deal, you would not say that it's fine for me to cheat you, as not cheating is a soley Christian ideal and not something that is a realistic lifestyle choice.
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