Red_Camellia
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BDSM Advice?
Hello,
I wasn't sure if I should post this in the "How to" or the "BDSM" Forum, so I hope that this is an alright place.
I was hoping to get advice from people in the BDSM community.
I've always had a thing for non-con, reluctance, and BDSM stories (first thing I gravitated towards when I found out about erotica actually) but my partners have never been willing to experiment that way with me so its always stayed more of a fantasy than anything else.
However, it's been difficult for me to pinpoint exactly what I want. I love being dominated, but I can be a bit of a brat and enjoy the back and forth of banter and power play. And ultimately cannot help but feel glee when I feel like I've "won" or "beat" my partner (only temporarily of course. I'd be disappointed if I couldn't be outfoxed again. )
I've been seriously considering figuring out a way to test this all out in the real world, but I'm not sure how to go about it.
I don't want to end up leading anyone on if this isn't for me or end up in a situation that's way over my head (haha pun)
I'm only 24 so I am concerned about safety and the risk of being manipulated by someone who sees me as more of a mark or fresh meat.
Since my fantasies are more theoretical than real at this point, I'm not sure where to start. Especially, because some of the kinkier aspects of the BDSM community feels a little overwhelming to me since it's not a realm I've managed to dip my toes in yet.
If anyone could offer advice or maybe stories about how you got your start, I would really appreciate it. Thank you for reading through this obnoxiously long post.
xoxo
Camellia
Hello,
I wasn't sure if I should post this in the "How to" or the "BDSM" Forum, so I hope that this is an alright place.
I was hoping to get advice from people in the BDSM community.
I've always had a thing for non-con, reluctance, and BDSM stories (first thing I gravitated towards when I found out about erotica actually) but my partners have never been willing to experiment that way with me so its always stayed more of a fantasy than anything else.
However, it's been difficult for me to pinpoint exactly what I want. I love being dominated, but I can be a bit of a brat and enjoy the back and forth of banter and power play. And ultimately cannot help but feel glee when I feel like I've "won" or "beat" my partner (only temporarily of course. I'd be disappointed if I couldn't be outfoxed again. )
I've been seriously considering figuring out a way to test this all out in the real world, but I'm not sure how to go about it.
I don't want to end up leading anyone on if this isn't for me or end up in a situation that's way over my head (haha pun)
I'm only 24 so I am concerned about safety and the risk of being manipulated by someone who sees me as more of a mark or fresh meat.
Since my fantasies are more theoretical than real at this point, I'm not sure where to start. Especially, because some of the kinkier aspects of the BDSM community feels a little overwhelming to me since it's not a realm I've managed to dip my toes in yet.
If anyone could offer advice or maybe stories about how you got your start, I would really appreciate it. Thank you for reading through this obnoxiously long post.
xoxo
Camellia
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