GoodBoy741
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- Jan 1, 1970
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Recently in America there has been a shooting. The shooter killed a lot of people, claiming that it was all about his hatred towards women. This has pushed people to look at issues of misogyny, including taking a look at the incredibly misogynistic websites that he visited.
I feel like I need to talk a little about the kinds of stories I write. This isn't really about anyone else on Chyoo, just me. I don't see myself as anything like the shooter, but I wonder if I'm a bit like one of those guys on the websites he went to.
I write a lot of mind control stories. Now, the closest real world parallel to mind control is drugging a woman before having sex with her. Obviously, that's rape. So if mind control really existed, it would be rape, too. I've had some issues with that in the past. In some ways, some of my stories are the worst of this genre. I've posted stories on another site where the geeky guy is clearly getting sexual revenge on women who have treated him badly. The proximity of this to what a madman has recently done bothers me.
I write these stories more about the control than about the sex. The idea of the relationship being completely simple, with the guy knowing for certain that the woman wants what he wants, appeals to me. That's why I also write stories where women control men, because it still has that simplicity of purpose. I don't actually want a character who wants to hurt other people, I like to think that my characters make sure their victims enjoy the sex. However, the victims are still victims.
I like to think that fantasy is a place where we can do unspeakable things. We can fantasize about robbing a bank or having sex with a married woman because there are no consequences in a fantasy. I like to think that just because I fantasize about these things doesn't mean that I get any closer to being confused about what is right and wrong in real life. I don't think I'm going to stop writing stories where a man uses power to make a woman want to have sex with him, because I think there's a place for that in a fantasy context.
However, I'm starting to worry about what I'm putting into the world. When I write a story about one woman who is evil and gets mind controlled because she deserves some guy's revenge, does even one of my readers misinterpret that? Does even one person think of her as an example for all women and feel justified in his hatred? I'm not even talking about some psychopath with a gun, just some jerk who looks for any excuse to justify treating women badly.
I do love women. I love them *as people*, people who have every right to exist and live their lives how they want without harassment or fear. I don't want to contribute to the idea that it's okay to treat them badly. To me, my stories are an expression of my own insecurities, my own turn-ons, my own fears, and my own successes in life. To someone else, they might take something different from my stories.
So I'm not sure about my future here.
I feel like I need to talk a little about the kinds of stories I write. This isn't really about anyone else on Chyoo, just me. I don't see myself as anything like the shooter, but I wonder if I'm a bit like one of those guys on the websites he went to.
I write a lot of mind control stories. Now, the closest real world parallel to mind control is drugging a woman before having sex with her. Obviously, that's rape. So if mind control really existed, it would be rape, too. I've had some issues with that in the past. In some ways, some of my stories are the worst of this genre. I've posted stories on another site where the geeky guy is clearly getting sexual revenge on women who have treated him badly. The proximity of this to what a madman has recently done bothers me.
I write these stories more about the control than about the sex. The idea of the relationship being completely simple, with the guy knowing for certain that the woman wants what he wants, appeals to me. That's why I also write stories where women control men, because it still has that simplicity of purpose. I don't actually want a character who wants to hurt other people, I like to think that my characters make sure their victims enjoy the sex. However, the victims are still victims.
I like to think that fantasy is a place where we can do unspeakable things. We can fantasize about robbing a bank or having sex with a married woman because there are no consequences in a fantasy. I like to think that just because I fantasize about these things doesn't mean that I get any closer to being confused about what is right and wrong in real life. I don't think I'm going to stop writing stories where a man uses power to make a woman want to have sex with him, because I think there's a place for that in a fantasy context.
However, I'm starting to worry about what I'm putting into the world. When I write a story about one woman who is evil and gets mind controlled because she deserves some guy's revenge, does even one of my readers misinterpret that? Does even one person think of her as an example for all women and feel justified in his hatred? I'm not even talking about some psychopath with a gun, just some jerk who looks for any excuse to justify treating women badly.
I do love women. I love them *as people*, people who have every right to exist and live their lives how they want without harassment or fear. I don't want to contribute to the idea that it's okay to treat them badly. To me, my stories are an expression of my own insecurities, my own turn-ons, my own fears, and my own successes in life. To someone else, they might take something different from my stories.
So I'm not sure about my future here.