Ladies, What Is Your Preference?

I'd like to comment on this, because it's actually kind of a conversation I've had with friends. While I've had some pretty minor experience with women over the years (a good bit of making out, some petting, etc but nothing really below the belt), I have never ever considered myself bisexual. Not that I have an issue with the term or the preference--I've just never felt it applied to me. A friend of mine who is pretty fiercely bi but more on the lesbian end of the spectrum seriously questioned me for that, because she said basically if I've had experience with women, I'm bisexual.

For me it comes down more to the question of desire and passion. I don't flirt with women, I don't find myself sexually attracted to them--every time I've made out with a woman, it's been a very close friend and it felt like more of an extension of that than any expression of actual desire. When I picture sexual situations, it never involves a woman--I just don't lust after women, but I definitely do with men. I know people have varying opinions on this kind of issue, so I thought the thread would probably be pretty interesting. Sorry to be so long-winded.

For me it's not so much a person's gender as it is his or her personality!

I'm definitely more physically attracted to women. I always have been. But there is something so sexual and animalistic about sex with a man, especially if he likes being rough. In terms of checking out, touching, making out, etc I'd rather be with a woman but actual sex? Give me a sexy, sweaty dude, please

Edited to actually answer your poll question: I said I like both (all, really) genders equally simply because it really doesn't matter. I answered above with my ideal, however I ultimately consider myself pansexual. And I happen to be in a monogamous marriage with a man.

Yes I am a bisexual woman But I do prefer men I can't live without getting some dick.

I go though phases. Or are they moods?

Sometimes I'm more into men, sometimes women. I'm not sure why.

I think the poll needs another category.
I am primarily heterosexual, but, in some right situations, I can enjoy being with another woman. I don't search out women for sex, but I have been with other women a few times in my life. I think of it like our preferred everyday diets (not losing weight kind). Stuff we eat on a regular basis in our daily lives and buy at the grocery store. Occasionally, we go to a restaurant and enjoy a dish we normally don't eat or would want all the time. That's how I am, but I've never been the initiator. Does this make sense you ladies. I never thought of my self as bisexual.

LauraWilling said:

I think the poll needs another category.
I am primarily heterosexual, but, in some right situations, I can enjoy being with another woman. I don't search out women for sex, but I have been with other women a few times in my life. I think of it like our preferred everyday diets (not losing weight kind). Stuff we eat on a regular basis in our daily lives and buy at the grocery store. Occasionally, we go to a restaurant and enjoy a dish we normally don't eat or would want all the time. That's how I am, but I've never been the initiator. Does this make sense you ladies. I never thought of my self as bisexual.

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You make a good point but, then again, the primary point of the poll is not your preference identification but, rather, which you prefer, men or women.

Which is it?

My first sexual experience was with a girl....as was my 2nd, 3rd and 4th. It was never that I wasn't interested or drawn to boys, I was. I happily flirted and teased, and definitely, definitely spent many nights in bed masturbating to horny thoughts of them. It's just, at that time, I found playing with girls to be so utterly delicious and so much fun, I couldn't imagine a sexual something better or more enjoyable. Girls were it -- that is -- until a little over a year later -- when I became acquainted with the wonderful pleasures of a man's cock.

I think females are lovely, divine creatures. I find them emotionally and physically attractive as the opposite sex. I lust after them. Fantasize about them. Even have a weakness for certain types. And I've always indulged -- and still do, every now and then -- but it's not something I actively seek. I don't go out looking for hot girl on girl action or am I propositioning women via private message when perusing sites like Literotica .... (no worries, Litster ladies, promise. ) .... however, I don't shy away from opportunities that present themselves and capture my interest or attention.

To add: I'd probably say, no matter how terrible it sounds, that through the years, encounters with other females have been, for the most part, a fine boost for my confidence and ego (if/when needed) and/or that of a superficial nature, nothing more.

Us girls we are so magical .... Soft skin, red lips, so kissable .... Hard to resist so touchable .... Too good to -- deny it .... ( I agree with those lyrics, Katy Perry! )

There are many reasons why men take the cake, for sure! In my book, at least. Simply put .... cock .... is just .... WOW!.... HOT! .... and the object of my cfnm doings and fantasies.

So. Umm. Yeah. To answer your question. LOVE women but I prefer the company of men alot more. Hands down. Way, way more.

RacyRedLips said:

My first sexual experience was with a girl....as was my 2nd, 3rd and 4th. It was never that I wasn't interested or drawn to boys, I was. I happily flirted and teased, and definitely, definitely spent many nights in bed masturbating to horny thoughts of them. It's just, at that time, I found playing with girls to be so utterly delicious and so much fun, I couldn't imagine a sexual something better or more enjoyable. Girls were it -- that is -- until a little over a year later -- when I became acquainted with the wonderful pleasures of a man's cock.

I think females are lovely, divine creatures. I find them emotionally and physically attractive as the opposite sex. I lust after them. Fantasize about them. Even have a weakness for certain types. And I've always indulged -- and still do, every now and then -- but it's not something I actively seek. I don't go out looking for hot girl on girl action or am I propositioning women via private message when perusing sites like Literotica .... (no worries, Litster ladies, promise. ) .... however, I don't shy away from opportunities that present themselves and capture my interest or attention.

To add: I'd probably say, no matter how terrible it sounds, that through the years, encounters with other females were pure ego boosters and that of a superficial nature, nothing more.

Us girls we are so magical .... Soft skin, red lips, so kissable .... Hard to resist so touchable .... Too good to -- deny it .... ( I agree with those lyrics, Katy Perry! )

There are many reasons why men take the cake, for sure! In my book, at least. Simply put .... cock .... is just .... WOW!.... HOT! .... and the object of my cfnm doings and fantasies.

So. Umm. Yeah. To answer your question. LOVE women but I prefer the company of men alot more. Hands down. Way, way more.

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What CFNM stuff have you done?

SgtSpiderMan said:

What CFNM stuff have you done?

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I've attended parties and such things. I'm really more into well dressed cfnm than the every day scenarios you frequently find online. I also play with someone in particular, someone who enjoys the dynamic as much as I do. I like to think of him as my male strumpet, a man-toy who gets butt naked for me any time I please.

Edited to add and sorta fit this thread: I tried playing clothed female - naked female and didn't find it as much fun. Which is the case for most of the kinky games I like to play, minus a few.

Maybe I've just always separated my desires between what I felt men were good for and what I felt women were good for .... sexually .... and found that, for me, men were the better choice for my needs.

I'm more interested in the mind than the peculiarities of plumbing!

Rose4Emily said:

I'm more interested in the mind than the peculiarities of plumbing!

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Agreed!

EmpressJosephine said:

All sexes and sexual persuasions are welcome to comment, but I am especially interested in the perspectives of other bisexual women.

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I like both. I honestly can't tell who I prefer but right now - I'm kind of "stuck" on older men. So I guess I prefer them...? A couple of years ago, it was ONLY ladies for me & my first partner was a woman.

But I agree with the others - it's all about the mind and the personality.

This has been something I've struggled with in recent years. I've been with my husband since we were in high school, and considered myself straight for a long time. It's only been in the last few years that I've started to realize that I am definitely also sexually attracted to women. I have had some minor experiences here and there with friends at parties, but I always assumed that it was just born out of having been drunk.

I think it's wonderful that we live in a time where I can feel comfortable saying that this is just who I am. I may prefer men, but there's nothing to be ashamed of finding the idea of being with a woman very appealing, too.

I'm pretty much straight, with my own preference being for a man with a hard cock

That said, I have had a few bi experiences in the past, and they're nothing that I'm ashamed of. One of the ladies I still keep in touch with (we're friends on Facebook).

Would I enter into a relationship with another woman? I can't say that I wouldn't. If I met someone who was completely and fabulously terrific, and I became completely enamored with them, and the person just happened to be a woman, I mean, who am I to fight it?

LauraWilling said:

I think the poll needs another category.
I am primarily heterosexual, but, in some right situations, I can enjoy being with another woman. I don't search out women for sex, but I have been with other women a few times in my life. I think of it like our preferred everyday diets (not losing weight kind). Stuff we eat on a regular basis in our daily lives and buy at the grocery store. Occasionally, we go to a restaurant and enjoy a dish we normally don't eat or would want all the time. That's how I am, but I've never been the initiator. Does this make sense you ladies. I never thought of my self as bisexual.

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Misha_Davis said:

I'm pretty much straight, with my own preference being for a man with a hard cock

That said, I have had a few bi experiences in the past, and they're nothing that I'm ashamed of. One of the ladies I still keep in touch with (we're friends on Facebook).

Would I enter into a relationship with another woman? I can't say that I wouldn't. If I met someone who was completely and fabulously terrific, and I became completely enamored with them, and the person just happened to be a woman, I mean, who am I to fight it?

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These, and perhaps a couple other comments above, raise the question of what it means to be "bisexual."

I think of it in terms of being attracted to, and desiring, if the situation warrants, to have sex with, either gender, even if you prefer one considerably more.

What do you all think?

As a retired psychologist I strive to get at what action is, rather than brand it permanently like cattle.

I recently bought and read a variety of sexual interview books published by Lawrence Block back in 1970. He was a porn writer before be became a hard crime/noir writer. His porn then is detailed and graphic. He isn't gay, how did he know so much about male on male anal sex. I cant name one gay writer who exposed the soul of gay anal sex or lesbian sex. Simple. Block interviewed everyone and their partners and exposed it all. But the participants aren't static. In one book a firm lesbian and bisexual wife are in lust for each other, and by the end the hardcore lesbian is in bed and in love with the woman's husband. In a different book a woman picks up two men at a bar, fucks them, and gets them to fuck each other. It all came from the interviews.

So my thinking about sex acts changed. SOMETIMES YOU FEEL LIKE A NUT, SOMETIMES YOU DONT. People use sex acts for diverse purposes and the why is impossible to really know. There's only do and don't do.

Block says everyone is bisexual, because all will be sexual with the home team at some time or another, if things happen. A penis in a vagina only means that a penis is in a vagina, and it may or may not produce a child. Guys fuck lesbians all the time. I know gay guys who made babies.

EmpressJosephine said:

These, and perhaps a couple other comments above, raise the question of what it means to be "bisexual."

I think of it in terms of being attracted to, and desiring, if the situation warrants, to have sex with, either gender, even if you prefer one considerably more.

What do you all think?

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This is why I don't consider myself bisexual even though I've had some sexual experience with women. I don't look at women, lust after them, and find myself desiring physical contact with them. It feels more like something that has happened because there's been no more appealing person with male sex organs around. I might even do something with a woman in front of my husband, but it wouldn't be because I inherently desired it--it would be because of the effect it would have on him.

I'm straight though I love feminine men. Crossdressers are so sexy and I love long hair.

The John Warren Wells books

<I recently bought and read a variety of sexual interview books published by Lawrence Block back in 1970. He was a porn writer before he became a hard crime/noir writer. His porn then is detailed and graphic. He isn't gay, how did he know so much about male on male anal sex. I cant name one gay writer who exposed the soul of gay anal sex or lesbian sex. Simple. Block interviewed everyone and their partners and exposed it all. But the participants aren't static. In one book a firm lesbian and bisexual wife are in lust for each other, and by the end the hardcore lesbian is in bed and in love with the woman's husband. In a different book a woman picks up two men at a bar, fucks them, and gets them to fuck each other. It all came from the interviews.>

Thanks for this, Noirtrash. Through the miracle of ebooks, I've been able to republish all of my John Warren Wells titles. Most are at Amazon exclusively, which means Kindle Unlimited subscribers can read them for free. In any event, they're all priced cheaply at $2.99; my goal was to make them easily accessible. No plans to publish them in printed book form, as I don't think the demand would justify it. I gather the books are read by some readers for titillation and by others for a glimpse into human lives; two worthwhile purposes, I'd say, and I would hope they might afford both.

Rose4Emily said:

I'm more interested in the mind than the peculiarities of plumbing!

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Exactly

I hope I'm sane ;-)

While I am a heterosexual, I love the beauty of the female form. There is something very sensual about watching a couple making love that turns me on. The sweaty passion, breasts heaving, back arching, I just love to watch a woman in the throws of orgasm.

I am bi and love women to death, but there is nothing like a real hard cock to suck or get fucked by, and nothing like cum. Currently if i want a cock it is in a ffm situation with the guy being the hubby or bf of one of my close friends

I'm straight but .....

have always been curious about other girls, just not had opportunity to try for real.