Help! What do you think about this?

I am beginning to believe that logic..based on what everyone here has said and PMed me. He has to be happy with the fact that I have 1) never gotten mad about any of this 2) purchased panties and pantyhose for him 3) told him numerous times how sexy he looks and how much it turns me on too 4) tied him up/ let him tie me up 5) had professional bondage pics taken of me for him for xmas 6) keep our "toy chest" stocked with new fun things 7) toss his salad and finger him EVERY TIME we have sex 8) let him deep throat me and cum down my throat 9) fuck him whenever he wants with my feeldoe strapless cock....

10) cook dinner EVERY night 11) pack his lunch for work

so yea he should have physical and emotional gratification! Damn I just read my list -he'd be NUTS to leave me!! :) Oh yea! and I forgot just got measured for a new bra 38G...

fuck I wish I was married to you


No kidding... you need too talk too my wife...*wink*. though it would be 38DD
 
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you should talk to him ask him about his fantiasies see if he wants to dress as a woman and get banged up the butt and go from there
 
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I have been married for 10 years. 2 years ago, I found a picture on my husband's laptop of him dressed as a woman. He denied (and still does) that it is him (pic is from chin down). Anyway, I did not act mad or weird about it. In fact I told him how sexy he looked and we fucked on his desk right next to the laptop and the picture! It was fabulous! Our sex life had been getting pretty dull and had never really been exciting. He always came across as really conservative. When we first married he acted shocked I had a vibrator! Anyway after that day, I started buying him panties, stockings..etc. He even started asking me to lick, finger and fuck his ass. That has become a normal part of our routine. I love it and I love how excited he gets.

Okay so 2 weeks ago I find a pair of panties and stockings in his briefcase that I did not buy and discovered he shaved his legs...no biggie buy why all the secrets? He has looked at bondage porn our entire marriage and I let him tie me up sometimes but recently he looked at a TV's bound to serve sight.....? He wants to be tied up I thought and so I did...but he claims no he likes tying me up!! I know I need to ask him these questions but he wont really answer...Should I worry? Why would he hide these things if he knows I am more than okay with it? In fact I am wet thinking about what he will look like in the new panties I bought him today!!

Any thoughts??
Sounds like he wants to have sex in dress but is ashamed to admit it. Tell him it would turn you on.
 
I am beginning to believe that logic..based on what everyone here has said and PMed me. He has to be happy with the fact that I have 1) never gotten mad about any of this 2) purchased panties and pantyhose for him 3) told him numerous times how sexy he looks and how much it turns me on too 4) tied him up/ let him tie me up 5) had professional bondage pics taken of me for him for xmas 6) keep our "toy chest" stocked with new fun things 7) toss his salad and finger him EVERY TIME we have sex 8) let him deep throat me and cum down my throat 9) fuck him whenever he wants with my feeldoe strapless cock....

10) cook dinner EVERY night 11) pack his lunch for work

so yea he should have physical and emotional gratification! Damn I just read my list -he'd be NUTS to leave me!! :) Oh yea! and I forgot just got measured for a new bra 38G...

Nice rack!!

You should suggest bringing another man into the equation. I think he wants to suck cock and get fucked for real. If you are cool with him doing that while you watch and join in, then suggest it or set it up. If you are not cool with it, then that could be what he is hiding. Just a though.
 
i didnt mean like a total assault but ask about his fantasies and see if he wants it just the sugesstion sometimes helps them open up so to say
 
My first thought, having the same desires as your hubby, is that he wants a cock.

You can shove a strap-on up his ass 1,000 times and he is still going to wonder what the real thing feels like exploding in his ass and mouth.

You should find someone that is a TV and have them bound and tied up when he gets home. The truth will out.

You need to find out exactly what his fetish is.
 
Update

Well, I have tried to get him to tell me a fantasy or two...he is just very shy about it. So, I recently bought him a one piece bra/panty set and a dress. I also, updated our toy chest with a life-like dildo, a ponytail, a new bullet, some new rope and nipple clamps. He has enjoyed playing with all of these things. He also seems to be into me taking photos while he is dressed. The perplexing thing is he insists HE wants to tie ME up...but I see that he often looks at crossdresser bondage pics online. Since he looks at that -wouldn't it stand to reason that he wants ME to tie HIM up? I flat out asked him. He claims he wants to tie me up..so that is the plan tonight or tomorrow...it makes zero sense to me.....

Any thoughts?
 
Well, I have tried to get him to tell me a fantasy or two...he is just very shy about it. So, I recently bought him a one piece bra/panty set and a dress. I also, updated our toy chest with a life-like dildo, a ponytail, a new bullet, some new rope and nipple clamps. He has enjoyed playing with all of these things. He also seems to be into me taking photos while he is dressed. The perplexing thing is he insists HE wants to tie ME up...but I see that he often looks at crossdresser bondage pics online. Since he looks at that -wouldn't it stand to reason that he wants ME to tie HIM up? I flat out asked him. He claims he wants to tie me up..so that is the plan tonight or tomorrow...it makes zero sense to me.....

Any thoughts?

is he alone playing with these new toys...??. Just go with the flow, for now. remember. before he ties you up. establish a "SAFE" word. if he starts doing something your not in favor of you call out the safe word....Everything stops. else wise, go along
 
Well, I have tried to get him to tell me a fantasy or two...he is just very shy about it. So, I recently bought him a one piece bra/panty set and a dress. I also, updated our toy chest with a life-like dildo, a ponytail, a new bullet, some new rope and nipple clamps. He has enjoyed playing with all of these things. He also seems to be into me taking photos while he is dressed. The perplexing thing is he insists HE wants to tie ME up...but I see that he often looks at crossdresser bondage pics online. Since he looks at that -wouldn't it stand to reason that he wants ME to tie HIM up? I flat out asked him. He claims he wants to tie me up..so that is the plan tonight or tomorrow...it makes zero sense to me.....

Any thoughts?


Hello,

I read your thread, and I wanted to make a few points. First, I myself am a crossdresser. I only discovered this desire over the last year or so. I've been married for 4 years, and I am so lucky... SO DAMN LUCKY to have a wife that supports me. You are a good partner to be so supportive of your husband and make efforts to explore this part of himself with him.

Well one of the reasons I married my wife is because I knew she was an open minded person. Even though I was absolutely certain she would be supportive, I did keep it a secret from my wife for months. I wanted to tell her many times that I sometimes wore her clothes when I was home alone, but it was hard. It was liberating when I finally did.

I've put tons of thought into what drives me to do it, and talked to a few people about it... One thing I am really certain about is that there are so many influences that may or may not contribute to this desire; some of those reasons I feel I am fairly certain about, while others I am unsure if they are a cause or an effect. I also suspect that my own mind is complicated beyond my comprehension, and I don't think I will ever truly understand it. I've also learned that pretty much everyone who does dabble in gender bending will do it for their own reasons, which may be very different from the next cross dresser. What I am getting to in a round-about kind of way is that I of course can give you some insight into what drives me, but I cannot say which driving factors of mine will be parallel to your husband's (if any).

I can say that exploring this part of me has at times been very confusing, and even frightening. I found it was helpful for me to talk to people online about it. Your husband may have trouble talking to you about it because he himself is uncertain, or confused. It may be easier for him to talk to someone anonymously over the internet. There are many people on this very forum who are patient, wise, and open to helping those seeking answers.

I should tell you, though, that talking about it with some people from this forum revealed within me some desires I did not know I had, and also revealed a number of possible realities I may be heading toward. Basically, I discovered that this part of myself is becoming more important, and a larger part of what I consider my personal identity. The more I explore the woman inside of me the more real she gets. A few months ago I had a mini identity crisis (Lasted all of 2 or 3 days), and I was afraid because I knew I was changing into something foreign; the knowledge that my future self is now more of a stranger to me than ever can be daunting.

My advice is to be there for him as you have been, and to be patient. Sometimes pushing to explore this facet of his personality can be stressful, confusing, and frightening, even if the outcome is a healthier understanding for both of you. You have your entire lives to figure yourselves out... and he may come to a point where he does not want to explore it any further than a sexual fetish that he doesn't really understand, and there is nothing wrong with that.

Lastly, I would like to advise you not to read too much into porn found in the browser history! I myself have searched for an wide variety of things over the years, and not all of them are good representatives of who I am or what I want. I think if he is happy with letting you fuck him up the ass with a strap-on, he won't be too shy to ask to be tied up if that is what he really wants ;)

Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about it more, and best of luck to you and your husband.
 
New Outfit

Got a new outfit for him. I have decided to experiment a bit since he is so shy about what he likes. The rope is ready..after I dress him I am going to tie him up (like once before) and see how he reacts (he seemed to like it before)...If he insists I will let him tie me up.. I don't care what happens as long as I get some cock...I am soooo horny today!!
 
I have been married for 10 years. 2 years ago, I found a picture on my husband's laptop of him dressed as a woman. He denied (and still does) that it is him (pic is from chin down). Anyway, I did not act mad or weird about it. In fact I told him how sexy he looked and we fucked on his desk right next to the laptop and the picture! It was fabulous! Our sex life had been getting pretty dull and had never really been exciting. He always came across as really conservative. When we first married he acted shocked I had a vibrator! Anyway after that day, I started buying him panties, stockings..etc. He even started asking me to lick, finger and fuck his ass. That has become a normal part of our routine. I love it and I love how excited he gets.

Okay so 2 weeks ago I find a pair of panties and stockings in his briefcase that I did not buy and discovered he shaved his legs...no biggie buy why all the secrets? He has looked at bondage porn our entire marriage and I let him tie me up sometimes but recently he looked at a TV's bound to serve sight.....? He wants to be tied up I thought and so I did...but he claims no he likes tying me up!! I know I need to ask him these questions but he wont really answer...Should I worry? Why would he hide these things if he knows I am more than okay with it? In fact I am wet thinking about what he will look like in the new panties I bought him today!!

Any thoughts??

sit down together with him dressed if that would be more comfortable for either one of you and talk about it ,tell him what turns you on first to open things up and then ask him what he likes and discuss it honestly would be my advice ,x
 
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I'd second PressNightly's comments and URGE you to take a deep breath and enjoy any and all activities. Be cool but do as much exploring as you can to find the extent of what turns each of you on. If you simply cannot fight the urge to require he talk about his desires, stuff a rag in it and continue to play. :)
Just your saying "It's OK to like "x" or "y" or "z" doesn't erase his feelings that he MUST hide lest he be shamed. Listen to the voice of experience here my dear.
 
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