susurrus
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Am I the only one that has some trouble just just letting go? The hubby and I have had fun with water sports in the past but it can be hard to relax. My husband likes to orally please me in the shower and encourages me to "just let go" but as long as I'm being pleasured I find it hard to pee?
With a little encouragement and concentration he on the other hand can pee with an erection. I guess I'd be interested in hearing from other women. What is the secret? It's almost like an either or thing. Are there some women that can in fact pee while being orally pleasured?
I'm not female, nor am I a psychologist, however...
As you've already guessed, it's all mental. First off, it's normally an activity that - in general - occurs alone, behind closed doors. Then, for ladies in particular, it's something that you don't typically even see happen, which gives it a certain degree of taboo. Taboos are really difficult to get past, which is why it hasn't been easy, even when you've played before and succeeded.
Then there's the societal taboo of urinating in "inappropriate" places. We've been conditioned into the idea that the only places you're supposed to evacuate are places that are specifically dedicated to such things. Once again, due to anatomy, women in particular are conditioned so.
So, it's difficult to get over the idea that, "I'm not peeing where I'm supposed to."
Even moreso, it's, "I'm gonna pee on another person!"
And due to the oral sex that you're talking about, there's, "Oh my god, I'm gonna pee on another person, and I'm going to be peeing IN HIS FACE!"
There's a lot to wrap your brain around here, a WHOLE shitload of taboos to overcome.
Have you done any pee play on your own? I mean, without your husband involved. Have you waited to pee until you got into the shower, squatted down and held your hand in the spray? I don't know how limber you are, but have you laid on your back, thrown your hips up in the air, balancing on your shoulders, and peed on yourself? Maybe if you got used to feeling it in your own face, you might be able to break free of some of those taboos.
Maybe you and your husband need to sit down and talk about it. From the sound of things, he's ready and eager to feel you pee in his mouth, but maybe talking it out, and understanding his true feelings about it, might help you
I don't know that there's an easy solution. My opinion is that, since hubby seems already interested in the notion, you need to embrace the kinkiness of the situation. The fact that you both seem interested in this and that you're at least trying is a big deal in itself. Not every wife would willingly pee on her man. You're almost there. It's a big hurdle, true, but the fact that you've managed to relax enough to pee on him in the past means you have it in you to do this, too.
You just need to get out of your head and remember that you aren't doing this for just anybody, and nobody else really has to know - not even us here on this thread. Enjoy the kinky stuff, the stuff that everybody does, but nobody you know talks about...