Stella_Omega
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No... masochism is, exactly and definitely, the erotic enjoyment of pain or humiliation.Question no 4 is related to the idea that masochism isn’t necessarily pain or humiliation itself, but also interpreted in relation to what it is to experience such a thing dependant on whether you are male or female.
That what it is. Male female or imaginary animal-- masochism is that single thing.
If you are trying to figure out if men and women have different triggers, if some things that men consider humiliating don't bother women and vice versa-- You are welcome, I've just untangled your language for you.
And of course the answer is yes, if we are talking about gender. Many-- but not all-- men love to be "humiliated" by being dressed up in women's clothing, and being called a "slut. Women love to be humiliated by being called "Slut" and, sometimes, by being dressed in slutty clothes.
For men, the perception is that there is a shamefulness in being female in the first place, yes indeedy. that's why they play with it. For women there is a perception that certain aspects of being female are even more shameful EG their sexual desires and most of all the free expression of such. That's why they play with it.
This is truly basic feminist theory, actually.
However there are plenty of humiliations that have very little to do with gender and are played with by both sexes.
Male chastity seems to be a big trend right now. IMO,a lot of that stems from the gadget aspect, all those cool devices you get to lock on yourself-- and then suddenly that peen is the center of your universe. (As it turns out, not so much. A locked down dude starts to lose interest in sex if he's been in it long enough, and sometimes finds he can't get it up for a few days after he comes out of the thing.For instance if chastity and denial are more prevalent within F/m, whereas in M/f if being pinned down and taken, called a slut etc. are more common practises, could this be because if women are biologically and culturally the more desired of the two sexes that the sadomasochistic eroticisation has been made in such ways. (hence question no. 3).
And there is pah-lenty of chastity/denial going on in M/f play. Lots. OMG, so much! (Same issue applies, actually. For chastity denial to remain fun, the bottom has to keep sex on their mind.)
As for the "pinned down and being called a slut" see my first answer for the 'slut' epithet, and being pinned down -- M/f couples do this because its easy to do-- it comes, so to speak, naturally. men tend to be bigger and stronger, they have the outie while she, smaller and less strong, has the innie.
And yes, some people feel that M/f is the natural expresson of biological Trooth as they see it. Your mileage may vary there. Mine sure as fuck does.
Absolutely not.Regarding where I said (in the 1st paragraph of this post): “but also interpreted in relation to what it is to experience such a thing dependant on whether you are male or female” is the root of the question about if homosexuals practise acts that relate to gender differences, like feminisation, as they are the same sex.
Totally, yes.
You are asking a simplistic question of an enourmous group. Some guys like to play with gender, some guys don't. Some lesbians like to play with gender, some don't. Gender play among same sex players is generally known as "butch/femme" And many people identify as "butch" (as the lady with the moustache who is telling you this) and many people identify as "femme."
I don't mind answering your questions if you can ask them competently and understandably.The rest of the questions have similar backgrounds, which I am not able to discuss. If for that reason anyone doesn’t want to help that’s fine.
Google is your friend; https://www.google.com/search?q=books+about+BDSMEnlighten me?
https://www.google.com/search?q=BDSM+and+gender
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