ShawnSwift
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- Sep 11, 2012
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"Something tells me you really don't have much experience with the range of dynamics that can arise in a BDSM relationship. The last sentence in particular made me chortle.
Any in-depth psychoanalysis based on no more contact than a handful of posts on an Internet forum should be treated as what it is: a bunch of wild-ass guesses. Dressing it up in a smattering of psych terminology doesn't change that."
You, um, forgot an entire paragraph Bramblethorn. Let me help you with that. Half truths good debating does not make.
"After giving each of the 132 participants four hours of psychological tests, as well as a face-to-face interview, I found that, in fact, the group was generally not mentally unhealthy, and the instances of early abuse that had long been associated with the adult practice of BDSM were present in just a few."
First, I'd like to point out that 132 individuals out of a massive community doesn't make for sound statistical analysis. Secondly, a history of abuse wasn't present in the majority but it was still present. Third, it's difficult to get to know someone in an "interview." Sure, you'll glean some insight based on body language and responses but unless those people were completely honest and the study went longer than a couple of days, it doesn't hold water.
"End of story. Being interested in BDSM is not a reason to start diagnosing the OP as sick or damaged."
I never said she was an emotional cripple, nor did I imply it. I did, however, implore her to do some soul searching (which she is doing). She went through some rough times emotionally and now she wants some rough times physically. Am I the only one who sees that as odd?
"People change throughout their lives. The reasons for those changes very often defy glib analysis. "
Often isn't always. It's better safe than sorry.
I know I said I was done but I guess I lied. BrambleThorn does make some interesting and valid points though quite a few of them are incomplete. I honestly hopes this helps you Huntress. Take what works for you and make it your own. I know you didn't want to be the big decision maker anymore but - lol.
Any in-depth psychoanalysis based on no more contact than a handful of posts on an Internet forum should be treated as what it is: a bunch of wild-ass guesses. Dressing it up in a smattering of psych terminology doesn't change that."
You, um, forgot an entire paragraph Bramblethorn. Let me help you with that. Half truths good debating does not make.
I know what they say about assuming and making an ass of you and me but wild speculation is all we really have to go on. I think if you want more specific help, you're going to have to give up some more specific information. I know you're already seeing a counselor but maybe it's time to see a registered sex-therapist too? Bring it up with the counselor first and ask about trust issues, BDSM and seeing a sex-therapist and see what he/she says. That individual will have more insight into who you are than any of us randoms on the internet.
"After giving each of the 132 participants four hours of psychological tests, as well as a face-to-face interview, I found that, in fact, the group was generally not mentally unhealthy, and the instances of early abuse that had long been associated with the adult practice of BDSM were present in just a few."
First, I'd like to point out that 132 individuals out of a massive community doesn't make for sound statistical analysis. Secondly, a history of abuse wasn't present in the majority but it was still present. Third, it's difficult to get to know someone in an "interview." Sure, you'll glean some insight based on body language and responses but unless those people were completely honest and the study went longer than a couple of days, it doesn't hold water.
"End of story. Being interested in BDSM is not a reason to start diagnosing the OP as sick or damaged."
I never said she was an emotional cripple, nor did I imply it. I did, however, implore her to do some soul searching (which she is doing). She went through some rough times emotionally and now she wants some rough times physically. Am I the only one who sees that as odd?
"People change throughout their lives. The reasons for those changes very often defy glib analysis. "
Often isn't always. It's better safe than sorry.
I know I said I was done but I guess I lied. BrambleThorn does make some interesting and valid points though quite a few of them are incomplete. I honestly hopes this helps you Huntress. Take what works for you and make it your own. I know you didn't want to be the big decision maker anymore but - lol.