Daddy's Little Girl

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LostGirlTink said:

I have misplaced my sparkle, but I'm trying not to get too dark.

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While you may not be able to see the brightness of your sparkle, others can! You light the way, inspiring us in ways you can't imagine...

I know people don't understand DD/lg, but I appreciate when someone asks about it before just tossing it all in a blender to mix it up and confuse things that they THINK they understand.


That being said, I adore my Daddy, my Guardian, my nerd for always being kind and compassionate.

barefootgirl69 said:

I know people don't understand DD/lg, but I appreciate when someone asks about it before just tossing it all in a blender to mix it up and confuse things that they THINK they understand.


That being said, I adore my Daddy, my Guardian, my nerd for always being kind and compassionate and teaching me to be more like him, too.

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I was glad a question was asked, I was formulating my answer but here probably is a better place to put it. I can only answer for myself, everyone else's mileage and experiences may vary.

I do sleep with a stuffed animal. I do melt at being told I'm a good girl. I like cartoons and coloring, but these days who doesn't?

Baby girls/Little girls are submissive girls who may or may not participate in Age play. They can be spoiled or snotty or shy and super sweet, they do tend to thrive on attention. They may be child-like and are usually slightly clingy or needy, or maybe not.


In my case... eh. I'm pretty needy. I am not for everyone. In fact, these days.. I'm not for anyone because nope. But I'm also not that childlike. I have what I refer to as my sparkle. It's the part of me that gives a shit. It's not super cynical. It's still willing to care about people even after getting hurt and kicked when I am down time and time again. It's a joy for life and yeah, a wonderment of things that are beautiful that when I have to be busy being in charge of freaking everything I don't get to appreciate.
Because most of the time I am in charge of everything. I have been "SUPER ADULT" for a really long time and I run a successful business, manage a family, care for aging and sick parents as well as volunteer work.
It's kind of nice to know that someone wants to make sure I'm going to bed on time.

A Daddy-Dom (keyword.. Dom, not necessarily Daddy. I have called 2 men Daddy in my life. One was when I was teaching my toddlers what to call their father and the other was my own father up until I was about 5.I actually don't know very may lgs/bgs that actually call Him "Daddy") tends to be nurturing and patient. They are more focused on nurture and guidance. They are often a gentler more goal oriented type of dominant though that is person/couple specific.
Little girls/Baby girls tend to on structure, enjoy having a focus.
We are often so in control of every other aspect of our life, that it is enjoyable and freeing to not have to make a decision.... or we might be such a hot mess that being reminded that Hey, you got less than 45 minutes of sleep last night, you need to get your ass in bed is really helpful.
It isn't that we can't take care of ourselves, it's that it's nice to know someone else actually wants to. That we are valued enough that it's important.
I told someone this when discussing the topic. I'm paraphrasing but it sort of went like this.
"I want someone that wants to indulge me but also isn't willing to put up with my bullshit.
I want rules, but only if you care enough to enforce them. Giving me structure shows me that you want what's best for me even when I won't give it to myself. "

I like pleasing my partner. It's a thing. It's a kink. I want him to be happy more than I want to be happy.. That part isn't any different than any other type of D/s relationship from what i can understand.

I once read a description of a baby girl that I think really puts this dynamic into perspective. So I'll sum it up like this.

It begins with the scenario of the big game on television.
The Dominant is watching it after looking forward to it all week and he wants a drink. So he turns to his submissive and asks them to go and get him a drink.

The slave would quickly run to the kitchen and bring him a beer before he could even notice she was gone then go back to her position.

The submissive would stop what they were doing and bring him a beer as soon a possible and then go back to her activity.

The baby girl/little girl would have beer, ice tea, sodas and snacks laying out within reach of him before the game even started. That is at least 3 solid hours of cuddle time and she wouldn't chance having to leave his side for something as silly as a drink.


Just something to think about.
Of course these are just my thoughts on the subject. I'd love to hear others.

I liked the baby girl football thingy. That's me alright!!

Thanks for writing that, Tink. I'm hoping others will see my post in the other thread and drop by here.

I want to comment, but I truly need to get through this day first, and something like that requires me to concentrate.

And, I do call Him "Daddy", but his name and other terms of endearment, as well.

I have been reading the last few pages, I don't often post here I know.

I have promised myself that this holiday I am not going to "Adult" frankly I am fed up of wearing my "big girl trousers"

But I need my Daddy, I need him to tuck me in and turn out the light. I need him to read me my bedtime story. I need him to make sure I have enough sleep and to watch my sugar intake. Not because I will be a "Sleepy Kitten" but a grumpy pixie" and I do get cranky"

I know that Daddy cannot be everywhere all the time, so I have my Eeyore that he bought me and a bottle of his aftershave and recordings of his voice. Everything I need, he has given me without refusal, question or judgment.

I am so proud to be his Kitten.

Traffic depending Daddy will meet me at the train station
Daddy will hail the taxi
At teatime (sorry Dinner-my Yorkshire coming through) Daddy will order from the menu
At bedtime, Daddy will brush my hair, and I have long hair.

All these things and more, Maybe I should have posted this in the "Thank you Daddy" thread but I've put it here. Every day I know how lucky I am.

angelofthenorth said:

I have been reading the last few pages, I don't often post here I know.

I have promised myself that this holiday I am not going to "Adult" frankly I am fed up of wearing my "big girl trousers"

But I need my Daddy, I need him to tuck me in and turn out the light. I need him to read me my bedtime story. I need him to make sure I have enough sleep and to watch my sugar intake. Not because I will be a "Sleepy Kitten" but a grumpy pixie" and I do get cranky"

I know that Daddy cannot be everywhere all the time, so I have my Eeyore that he bought me and a bottle of his aftershave and recordings of his voice. Everything I need, he has given me without refusal, question or judgment.

I am so proud to be his Kitten.

Traffic depending Daddy will meet me at the train station
Daddy will hail the taxi
At teatime (sorry Dinner-my Yorkshire coming through) Daddy will order from the menu
At bedtime, Daddy will brush my hair, and I have long hair.

All these things and more, Maybe I should have posted this in the "Thank you Daddy" thread but I've put it here. Every day I know how lucky I am.

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I've been wanting for a while to write something from the opposite perspective to the regular contributors here. Here's my best shot!

I believe that I have many of the qualities of a Daddy, but I hesitate to identify myself that way for several reasons:

• I am a parent, so the word "Daddy" already has a treasured meaning to me.
• I am not at all into physical age play. I have no further interest in changing nappies!
• I no longer have the spare time or energy to provide 24/7 care for someone new.
• Some of the things that I want to do with a play partner are... well... not something that a father should be doing.

Having said that, there are many good reasons why I fit the "Daddy" mould:

• I'm a nurturer at heart. I want to care for people and be loved for that.
• I love to see people grow. I want to be their guide, their teacher, their inspiration.
• I suffer from that Dom-ly conceit of believing that I can make things better by taking control.
• I have proved that I have the necessary qualities to make a long-term success of the role.

I've written elsewhere that Tinglebliss and I are now happily exploring new directions for ourselves, starting from the firm base that we've established between ourselves. I feel that the time is now right for me to launch my own credentials to the world in the hope that someone out there might find them appealing.

I'm going to bare my soul here and trust that my words are treated kindly here.

I yearn to be looked up to as a regular source of strength, guidance and love. That's not a given, though. I expect to have to earn that status and continue to work to maintain it. I'm painfully aware that, without trust and respect, I am nothing.

I'm not superhuman. I can only be strong for another person if they allow me to be. I rely on a continual flow of love and kindness back towards me, and that makes me weak. That might be a paradox, but it's one that I believe that someone compatible will understand.

There's a sexual element to this for me, too. I adore the notion of encouraging a hesitant woman to explore freely her innermost desires so that she can become the fully-fledged and liberated sexual being whom she deserves to be. I'd expect regularly to deploy phrases such as "you can", "I want you to" and "good girl". I glow at the thought of us taking that symbiotic journey together.

When I fall, I fall deeply. That's my biggest vulnerability, and I've had to learn over the years to try to protect myself. Even so, I'm hurting at the moment as I've had a lot of "false starts" over the last year with people who have dashed my expectations or disappeared abruptly. Please don't assume that only littles and babygirls feel that pain.

I could write more, but I feel that I've put more than enough of myself on the line here for the moment. I hope that what I've written is of value to some; if not, then please just let this posting die quietly as it sinks into the Lit archive. I'm happy to answer any constructive questions.
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I've been reading these posts and I really can't add more to what I've already read. To see my thoughts and feelings put into the written word by the others here have given me more a sense of community and knowing this is the right description for me. Thank you ladies and gentlemen for speaking so freely and beautifully on this topic that is so difficult for many to understand.

You all rock!

Mindfondler said:

[*] Some of the things that I want to do with a play partner are... well... not something that a father should be doing. [/LIST]

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Something I didn't address and didn't see anyone else mention is that DD/lg is not incest fantasy or play in any way at all despite the name Daddy attached to the word Dom.

That would be an entirely different kink altogether and it's really important that distinction is made.

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LostGirlTink said:

Something I didn't address and didn't see anyone else mention is that DD/lg is not incest fantasy or play in any way at all despite the name Daddy attached to the word Dom.

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Agreed. That's not my thing at all — hence my discomfort in this context with the word "Daddy" that seems to me to conflate the two ideas. I don't think I'd want someone that I'm playing with to call out "Daddy! Daddy!" while I'm doing certain things to them.

LostGirlTink said:

That would be an entirely different kink altogether and it's really important that distinction is made.

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That's the point to which I was alluding in my post just above. I want to keep those two ideas separated a long way apart in my mind.
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SubTulip said:

Thank you for sharing your thoughts MF.

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You're welcome! I'm glad that they've been received (so far) in the positive spirit that I intended.

SubTulip said:

I would suggest doing some research if you have not already on the Dynamics of a DD/lg relationship so you have a better understanding of the basic nature of a little and a DD.

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I'm already fairly familiar with the dynamics. I've been active in the kink scene for three years and some of my friends there participate in DD/lg dynamics. My observation is that there are many variations (the most obvious being the presence or absence of age play), so I'm wary of assuming that "one size fits all". In my writing, I was striving to explain what it might mean to me, so that others can judge whether it fits into their own understanding of DD/lg.

SubTulip said:

You sound like a nice chap and are very brave to post so openly about your feelings.

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Thank you! I do feel exposed emotionally by putting out into the open a side of me that could easily be misunderstood or mocked. Having said that, I wanted to do so because it's a way for me usefully to discover how others might relate to it in practice. At the moment, it's a theoretical exercise for me as I haven't yet found this dynamic with anyone else.

SubTulip said:

As a little I have no issues saying that I can be very needy, I would suggest you think about this as littles are very sensitive and I believe this is a common trait amongst us - there maybe exceptions as there normally are.

I point this out as you mention you do not have the time or energy etc, whilst I do not think 24/7 is what a little would ask for necessarily it is beyond important that you are available or have the energy to come up with creative ways if you are not available to be her safe place and comfort provider, encourager etc.

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Got it! I was just making the point that, for me, a DD/lg relationship cannot be the same level of commitment as bringing up another child. When I care about someone, though, I'm still prepared to make a substantial investment in them.

SubTulip said:

What I am trying to say is a Little is not just for Christmas and if you go into such a dynamic without proper thought as to whether you can be what she needs and she can be what you need you can unintentionally cause a lot of damage.

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Understood — but I'd say that's true of any serious relationship.

SubTulip said:

I dont know if that makes sense but I hope it helps to provide a little bit of an insight for you.

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It's helpful, thanks.

SubTulip said:

If you have any further questions I’m sure we would all be happy to help. This is a very helpful thread

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So far, it seems that way to me.
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If this has been previously posted than I apologize for any possible duplication. But with all of the morose of feelings on the DD/LG definition and such I though that I'd share it.

http://www.ddlginfo.com/what-is-ddlg.html

I in no way profess to have a competent understanding of this subsect of BDSM but it is a mutual agreed upon form of relationship and as such its level of interplay is worked out between the two parties.


My feelings on it is if it suits the two parties and its their thing than fine. It's not something I like seeing dominate other threads as it becomes cloyingly old in its repetition. But again, to each their own and a separate thread for it like this one is an excellent ideal.

These posts are all so thought provoking and engaging, thoughtful and reflective. I am intrigued by the wide range of what each of us bring into an understanding of DD/lg relationships. What for me is significant is the recognition that ultimately it is the needs of a lg that define the relationship. A DD has to be flexible in their own expectations and wants, recognizing that in realizing her needs, wants, desires he is realizing his own.

It isn't an easy recognition though, particularly for men with Dom tendencies, as one is prone to think the opposite - that in fulling one's own needs he is fulling the desires of his sub. A DD/lg relationship is just the opposite. In many ways it is the DD who serves the lg. And in return one receives unbelievable loyalty, devotion, and love. A DD/lg relationship isn't about "I", rather it is about her...

Ultimately, though, there are few of us DDs and DD wannabes that are that selfless. And thus I think it is important to also recognize that DD/lg relationships are a process (as are all relationships). It takes time, commitment, devotion towards a lg to fully "get" her - in both senses: understanding her and having her as yours. Without that commitment it would be neigh impossible to be a true DD.

I don't see such relationships as a kink. It isn't roleplaying, it isn't something to explore on the weekends, it isn't something to keep in the closet from your family and friends. It is a meaningful relationship based on providing a lg all that she needs to flourish, to find joy, and to explore and learn...

*sits in the back and crosses and uncrosses my ankles*

There are some great contributions in this thread, thanks for sharing all!

Lost_Yonder said:

What for me is significant is the recognition that ultimately it is the needs of a lg that define the relationship. A DD has to be flexible in their own expectations and wants, recognizing that in realizing her needs, wants, desires he is realizing his own.

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I couldn't agree more with this point and in my experience this is also the trickiest part to get right. Obviously communication is key, but several times I have run into the pitfall of overanalyzing the dynamic with my little girl. I would love to get some perspective from both sides on how, when and how often to have this conversation.

(I should say that my experiences have all been online DD/lg relationships, which makes communication harder, but I would expect this to be just as relevant in person)

Farawyn said:

*sits in the back and crosses and uncrosses my ankles*

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*stepping off to the side, holding his chin, lost in wonderment admiring those cute ankles*

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Lost_Yonder said:

What for me is significant is the recognition that ultimately it is the needs of a lg that define the relationship. A DD has to be flexible in their own expectations and wants, recognizing that in realizing her needs, wants, desires he is realizing his own.

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That's something that I realised as I made my earlier posting. All that I can do is to identify my own Daddy-like qualities. Beyond that, I'm powerless as a would-be DD until a potentially compatible lg makes herself known to me. It has to be that way round because (from my observations, at least) lgs are very good at hiding their little side behind the "grown up" persona that they've developed to protect them from the big bad world. To be allowed to see that vulnerability inside is a big privilege that requires a lot of prior trust to be established.

The good news is that a caring DD will instinctively understand all of that.
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Lost_Yonder said:

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/4f/ac/8f/4fac8f294ca4f245014f6de2241727df--ddlg-quotes-little-baby-girl.jpg

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Yes, this is what I was trying to say several pages back. Thank you.

What if I’m not a little? But I am curious.
How does that fit in with this? Or does it not?

Farawyn said:

What if I’m not a little? But I am curious.
How does that fit in with this? Or does it not?

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Well I think I'm only "sort of" a little myself.
I think that we have to take what works for us and leave what doesn't?
That's true with pretty much all of it though right?