Weakness

DVS said:

I can't worry about things I can't fix. Worry is my weakness.

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CutieMouse said:

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This is a whole thread topic in and of itself... actually we haven't had a good meaty discussion of this sort of thing (without derailing another thread) in a while.

I won't post my views of the opinions expressed here, and am off to work out before going into the shop, but I for one would be willing to discuss "casual BDSM/predators/True Love/etc" in a separate thread. And by separate thread I do not mean a posting of links of BL's writings. I mean a discussion.

(Posted publicly as BL apparently has PMs turned off.)

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BLoved said:

~smile~

I'm in.

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CutieMouse said:

So start the thread and begin debating your position on the matter.

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Keroin said:

But here’s the thing…what is it? What is real weakness, what is real strength? Does it bother other people to be weak? Do they even think or care about strength or weakness? Does it matter?

I know, this thread is a bunch of babbling and navel gazing but this is something I’m arm wrestling with right now.

Blah, blah, blah…

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chy_girl said:

Thank you again, Keroin.

The universe may have a fucked up sense of humor, but it does a fairly good job of at least providing us with a hint now and then...

Thank you (well, your thread) for being a hint.

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DVS said:

Thanks, but I do have my off moments. I try to make it difficult to see what's behind this smile. A sense of humor helps quite a bit in times of stress or when your life is upside down.

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anneski said:

I think weaknesses and strengths are individual things. For years I thought I was strong because I was a control freak. I was convinced this made me a strong person. It's only in the last year I've actually been able to admit that no, my controlling behaviour is actually one of my biggest weaknesses.
Also I used my brashness to avoid admitting to myself or anyone what I really wanted.
It took meeting the right person for me to see the above though, and to really acknowledge it.

Now I'm finding a whole new strength in submission to him - and that strength is bubbling over into the whole rest of my life, it's pretty amazing actually.

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BLoved said:

~smile~

Being the newcomer, and considering the response I've received so far, I'd rather not start up a thread where the primary focus will be the slinging of mud in my direction.

As it was your idea, I think it only fitting you start the thread.

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CutieMouse said:

A) Disagreement and debate is not the same as mudslinging.
B) I don't wish to put words in your mouth; however, if you insist I can gather your posts thus far (and reference your writings) to do so.
C) You've had no problem expressing your views in a thread not dedicated to your pet subject (True Love & BDSM as best I can tell); I am at a loss as to why you would find doing so in a place expressly dedicated to the task so onerous.

.. however, given that you've been given ample time (IMO) to create a thread that could genuinely contribute to the forum, and haven't done so I'll see what I can do. I'm generous that way.

(I do feel regardless of outcome the topic has some potential to be interesting/enlightening.)

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BLoved said:

I felt much the same way as I lost my wife to cancer.

As beloved, husband and master I'd have placed my life on the line for her without a second thought, but how do you fight something like cancer?

All I could do was offer love, support, encouragement, a reassuring smile ... regardless of how I felt about her chances.

I learned a lot about being helpless, which taught me a great deal about accepting that which I cannot change.

Before she got sick we were filled with the optimism of love, that together there was nothing we couldn't overcome. Since her death I have learned to respect the power of the universe to drastically alter one's reality overnight.

A humbling experience, to say the least.

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