BLoved
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Those are the stupid ones, the ones that get caught quickly.
The dangerous ones, are the highly intelligent, good at debating, confusing, and verbally overwhelm their prey. Those ones, also often come out as highly reassuring and checking all the safety boxes.
In the 2+ years I've quested for a beloved I've yet to see such a predator.
Predators are incapable of defending the ethics of casual 'bdsm' and thus resort to verbal abuse, working in groups to divert or shut down any discussion on the ethics of bdsm.
They deny the existence of abuse within the casual community and if examples are provided they do their best to paint the victims as stupid, weak, deserving of abuse, etc.
One need not look very hard at the on-line sites to quickly determine there are no love-based bdsm websites available. All of the major sites cater almost exclusively to the casual community, and heaven help the poor soul whose ethics reject casual 'bdsm' and says so openly.
The casual community has a very thin skin when it comes to criticism of casual 'bdsm'. They are quite happy to censor opposing points of view so that the only point of view a novice sees is theirs, thus presenting the appearance that the casual community is "The One True Way" for everyone who wishes to engage in bdsm.
A refusal to discuss ethics, a refusal to admit to the existence of abuse, a need to present their behaviour as the "One True Way" while actively censoring all opposing views ... compounded with their school-yard bullying tactics whenever anyone dares to challenge their authority ...
Predators are not hard to detect when you know what to look for.