Shankara20
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@}-}rebecca---- said:Coffee and ambivalence sounds a much better deal for me today : chuckles :
I could bring you coffee or not - it doesn't matter - what ever

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@}-}rebecca---- said:Coffee and ambivalence sounds a much better deal for me today : chuckles :
I could sort of drink or not - what ever . Who the Helllllllllllll am I kidding I was up late last night with nefarious styling pursuits I would kiss your feet for a cup of coffee FuShankara20 said:I could bring you coffee or not - it doesn't matter - what ever
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@}-}rebecca---- said:I could sort of drink or not - what ever . Who the Helllllllllllll am I kidding I was up late last night with nefarious styling pursuits I would kiss your feet for a cup of coffee Fu![]()
Best not ask what I would do for a chocolate croissant http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c224/rebecca000/9.gif
:chuckles: It's fine I will meet you half way : bigsmiles:Shankara20 said:
sorry - out of chocolate today, we under-ordered yesterday
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I have been very well behaved http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c224/rebecca000/22.gifEbonyfire said:Rebecca you are on my mind today, how are ya?
I am housebound today. Waiting for my Harry Potter book to arrive, so no one will steal it!
@}-}rebecca---- said:I have been very well behaved http://i28.photobucket.com/albums/c224/rebecca000/22.gif
Has someone been telling tales because I swear none of it is true !
Thank you for thinking of me Eb Ma'am![]()
:chuckles: I'll keep that firmly in mind next time I embark on some well concealed chaosEbonyfire said:I would never believe the tales [unless the tales were accompanied by money]!![]()
@}-}rebecca---- said:No pain, no gain
Edinburgh offers an airing for plays that later cause a national stir. S&M drama Special is a case in point
Sex sells. Sex on stage sells out. And as the public relations adviser for the play Special confidently informed me, “put S&M in the title and you are guaranteed a full house”. It’s probably true, but at the Edinburgh Festival the number of productions that opportunistically employ shock sex tactics to get bums on seats means that pretty much every sacred cow has already been slaughtered. From bestiality to topless women in wheel-chairs, it’s all been done before with varying degrees of success, and, somewhat predictably, when you type S&M into this year’s Edinburgh Festival search engine, Special is not the only show to come up. However, I suspect it is the one worth seeing.
Tackling what is still one of the most demonised forms of sexuality is a masochistic challenge for any writer or director, but John Keates has managed to steer his story clear of predictable clichés by containing the sexual exploration within the confines of a very “normal” domestic relationship. By avoiding the stereotypes of rubber clubs and torture gardens, the audience can identify with what is happening on stage in a way that would not otherwise be possible.
Through the course of the play, two characters, Emily and Steve, hang out in their living room, drink G&T, act out their S&M fantasies, get married and get pregnant. Emily is the “top”, the dominant one. Candle wax, thumb tacks, clothes pegs and deep heat are the tools of her trade and the contrast between her sadistic sexual tastes and her maternal instinct make uncomfortable viewing. In Special, the fantasy roles of bondage, pain, punishment and submission seem to have no place in a relationship that confounds us with its ordinariness. Though we know S&M happens, we like to keep it at arm’s length. The dominatrix, for example, is usually reduced to a kind of caricature Miss Whiplash so that she can be easily separated from “normal” women. By forcing us to face the sight of a functional, articulate, happily married woman taking pleasure from walking on her husband’s testicles wearing stilettos, Keates leaves us feeling conflicted.
S&M may not be a mainstream sexual practice, but there are millions of web pages devoted to the subject and images of female fetish and bondage are employed in advertising all the time. Verifiable statistics are hard to find, but it is estimated that 14 per cent of men and 11 per cent of women have engaged in BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism, masochism). It is hard for someone who has never experienced pain as an erotic pleasure to understand the attraction of S&M, but Derek Cohen, the chairman of the Spanner Trust, puts it well: “If I were to run my fingers down your back it would be a pleasant experience. If I were to use my nails you might enjoy that, too. If I were to press harder still you might find it too painful, but another person might enjoy the intensity of the sensation.
“How you perceive pain is largely contextual. If a person is being punished against their will then it is pure pain, but if a person is being punished in a consensual power exchange the pain is eroticised.”
People find S&M relationships confusing because they defy traditional assumptions about power within a partnership. As part of his research Keates visited a dominatrix who explained that, contrary to popular opinion, S&M is not just about the dominant person getting what he or she wants; it is about power sharing.
In a consensual S&M relationship there is no abuse, no violence and no lasting injury. Couples agree code words or gestures in advance to signal when the pain becomes too intense, and this means that the needs and desires of the submissive are actually the priority. The power exchange is intellectual, too. When Steve says “She lets me embrace my failings and after that my daily life is easy” he explains how, for many submissives, S&M play is true freedom, a holiday from control and responsibility.
Fortunately, Keates doesn’t attempt to explain any of these technicalities.
Had he fallen victim to the understandable urge to educate his audience, or tried to create a representation of what he thought an S&M couple might look and sound like, Special would be anything but. Instead Keates arrived at the existing script through an intense period of improvisation, a process that allowed him and his acting partner to work out the physical, emotional and intellectual responses that a couple engaged in S&M might experience. They spent several weeks locked in a hotel room working out what actions and exchanges heightened the charge between them. Keates believes that it is this process of personal exploration that will give Emily and Steve’s relationship credible intensity and, hopefully, he says with a grin, “leave the audience feeling intellectually, and, hell, why not, physically stimulated”.
Special, Assembly Universal Arts Theatre, Venue 7, George Street, Edinburgh, (www.assemblyfestival. com 0131-623 3030), Aug 2-27
Ahem ......neonflux said:True art (whatever that means, lol) about bdsm. I want very badly to see this.
I did a search online and found more reviews - all very positive, saying much the same thing. The British Theatre Guild reviewer mentioned the playright's bravery in allowing some scenes about the couple's extra-sexual life together to be mundane, boring.
Thank you for this posting. I will start looking for it to be performed both here and in NYC.
Neon
Shankara20 said:.
Shank trying to relax
damn pussies....
@}-}rebecca---- said:Ahem ......![]()
Indie sex series spotlights queer film
By Gary M. Kramer
The documentary series “Indie Sex,” premiering at midnight Aug. 1-4 on IFC and repeating throughout the month, showcases what’s queer — in all senses of the word — about depictions of sexuality in cinema. Lesbian filmmaker Lesli Klainberg, working with documentarian Lisa Ades, presents the various ways that sex, both straight and gay, has been portrayed in American and international cinema.
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JOHN CAMERON MITCHELL, "SHORTBUS," "HEDWIG AND THE ANGRY INCH"
The four-part television series features “Censored” films, “Taboos,” “Teens” and “Extremes.” The programs all herald the importance of independent films in particular — it is the Independent Film Channel, after all — but even so, the films miss the opportunity to explore some of the more important independent films and filmmakers who explore sexuality, such as Gregg Araki, Everett Lewis and Pedro Almodovar.
What will appeal to queer viewers is the fact that many of the talking heads are out actors, filmmakers and critics, and clips from classic gay and lesbian features unspool throughout the various programs. That said, while it is interesting to have folks like Lee Daniels and John Cameron Mitchell discussing how they approach sex in their work for the screen, it seems strange to have recording artists Billy Porter and Ari Gold as interviewees.
“Censored,” the opening entry in the series, is easily the weakest of the four documentaries. This film traces the way Hollywood rates movies starting from the days before the Production Code (aka Hays Code) — which restricted screen content from 1934-67— to the envelope-pushing NC-17 films that are released today. Yet while landmark films such as “Midnight Cowboy,” “Henry and June” and “Showgirls” are mentioned, what is said is not particularly new or insightful. Most viewers already are familiar with these queer-themed, explicitly sexual and controversial films. “Midnight Cowboy” won the Oscar for Best Picture. “Henry and June” was the first film to be rated NC-17 and “Showgirls” was a box-office flop. What is important is why these films were made, and how they are received by critics and audiences.
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HEATHER MATARAZZO, "PRINCESS DIARIES," "WELCOME TO THE DOLLHOUSE"
The “Taboos” documentary showcases provocative films that address issues of sexual power, such as Steven Soderbergh’s “Sex, Lies and Videotape,” David Lynch’s “Blue Velvet” and David Cronenberg’s “Crash,” as well as queer films such as “The Opposite of Sex” and “Chuck and Buck” to show how sex can be presented on screen as uncomfortable and/or unerotic. As John Waters admits, the sex scenes in all his films are deliberately “hideous and ridiculous.” Waters says the most outrageous thing he could ever film would be a man and a woman in the missionary position.
The “Teens” program looks at the history of how kids grappled with sexuality as depicted in cinema from the 1950s to the present. The show chronicles the waves of “boundary pushing” — particularly in the early 1980s with films such as “Little Darlings,” “The Blue Lagoon” and “Porky’s.” Significantly, there was, the filmmakers indicate, a swing away from those horny teenager/losing-virginity movies once AIDS hit public consciousness. The impact of how sex was portrayed shifted dramatically at this time and John Hughes’ teen films along with “safe” period romances like “Dirty Dancing” became the norm. Out actresses Heather Matarazzo and Guinevere Turner gush about the excitement of seeing teen sex on screen in films as diverse as “Dirty Dancing” and the raunchier “Porky’s.”
Significantly, it would be almost a decade before films such as Larry Clark’s controversial “Kids” appeared, featuring an HIV-positive young man (Leo Fitzpatrick) who deflowers virgins.
There is also considerable talk in the “Teens” program about the representation of gay and lesbian youth, with special focus on out filmmakers. Writer Todd Stephens is interviewed about his coming-out/coming-of-age film “Edge of Seventeen” (directed by David Moreton) and Jamie Babbit’s lesbian-identity crisis/coming-out comedy “But I’m a Cheerleader” is featured in this segment. Stephens adamantly talks about wanting to show gay teenage sex as “hot and awkward” and not “glossed over.” Likewise, Babbit wishes there had been films like “Cheerleader” when she was a teenager.
The last entry in the series, “Extremes,” addresses how kinks and fetishes are portrayed in films such as Waters’ “A Dirty Shame” and the S&M drama “Secretary” among others. While this episode retreads ground covered in the “Censored” program — there is another look at the groundbreaking films “Last Tango in Paris” and “Shortbus” — it also looks at edgier, foreign films such as Catherine Brelliant’s “Anatomy of Hell,” which features a gay man watching a woman’s nude body; Gaspar Noe’s shocking rape scene in “Irreversible” and Michael Winterbottom’s “9 Songs,” which features un-simulated sex acts. This entry also does a good job handling the risqué/sensitive subjects of pedophilia, represented by “Lolita,” and necrophilia as depicted in “Kissed” as well as showing how BDSM is played for laughs in “Exit to Eden” or as bad drama in “9 1?2 Weeks.” But again, the filmmakers miss the opportunity to discuss important independent films like “L.I.E.,” which depicted queer pedophilia, or “Beyond Vanilla,” a documentary about fetishes.
Curiously, many of the films and issues presented in these documentaries were handled much more effectively in Kirby Dick’s documentary, “This Film Is Not Yet Rated,” and yet the “Indie Sex” film series is worthwhile for reminding viewers about the edgy films that they should seek out and see in their entirety.
My complete pleasure HRHdK Ms Neonneonflux said:Sigh! If only I had access to IFC during that time! Will be moving sis across the country. BTW, had no idea that Heather Matarazzo was out. Yea!Thank you, Dr. R!
Neon
@}-}rebecca---- said:Where: Come As You Are
Why........... Why Fu .......... Why.......... does one have to resolve anything ?Shankara20 said:at least I could go without settling any yet-to-be-resolve identity questions....![]()
@}-}rebecca---- said:Why........... Why Fu .......... Why.......... does one have to resolve anything ?
You're magnificent, enjoy your damn self in the moment however it presents![]()
Awwww Fu, thank you for saving me from having to go Dan Savage on you. I adore him also but frankly and just between you and I, the dude swears a lot. Would have been one long MEEEEEEEEEP ever third word.Shankara20 said:sounds like good advice
see you in Toronto
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@}-}rebecca---- said:I need some vice today but what do I get instead........ sailing.
Yes and that's where we will be. Little Emperor loves the high seas as much as his mother does. Season starts today. Let me see if I just kept going and made the Pacific crossing it's still a contentious amount of crawling before I hit Kansas right ?Shankara20 said:you have the worlds best pond to sail in very close to your home.....
@}-}rebecca---- said:Yes and that's where we will be. Little Emperor loves the high seas as much as his mother does. Season starts today. Let me see if I just kept going and made the Pacific crossing it's still a contentious amount of crawling before I hit Kansas right ?