Is it shallow to want to date a thin woman?

shyly curious said:

how can you say that?

if you like tall dark haired men is that a shallow reason?

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ummm, NO LOL

Avery_Chisholm said:

ummm, NO LOL

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VermilionSkye said:

Not shallow, I guess. It's a choice. The reasons behind it would make it shallow.

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Why would the reasons behind it make it shallow?

You are right in that it is a choice...some people don't want to date someone with a larger body habitus. That doesn't make it wrong or shallow...just a different choice pattern.

EricVonZipper said:

if you are not turned on by heavy set women, then why are you called shallow?
How can one make that judgement??

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Did you read what I wrote? I certainly don't understand what you're trying to say/ask. Debecoize it for me.

I dunno, is it shallow to only want to date women with big titties?

There is nothing shallow about desiring certain things in a partner in general. Shallowness comes in if you deny your attraction to her because of it ... like the example of someone preferring women with large breasts ... if you would let the small breasts of a woman you were attracted to stop you from pursuing her further then I'd call that shallow. If you wouldn't let it stop you then just accept that she isn't picture perfect ... nobody is perfect anyway. There has always been at least one thing about every person I have ever been with that I'd have preferred was another way, but I realize that it is unrealistic to seek perfection. From experience, I can tell you that if your feelings for a person are strong enough you stop seeing what you view as being their flaws, (physical or otherwise,) ...there is more to her than her breasts that attracts you. If you love/desire her enough you realize that you wouldn't trade the wonderful person that your small-breasted partner is for another person with larger breasts.

If she is fat then you could always try to incorporate physical activities into your time with her. Take her hiking, biking, swimming, or go out dancing ... do physical things with her to help her burn the pounds off without hurting her ego or making her feel insecure about your relationship with her. Nobody wants to hear, "You know, I really care about you allot but you are fat." Most people don't enjoy being fat anyway, so maybe she just needs a little support and a good push to get the ball rolling if she isn't already working on the problem. If she is working on it and she is showing improvement then I'd suggest patience and encouragement. It never hurts to praise her for her accomplishments, and doubly so when it is something you want from her for yourself.

Well, there go my chances.

MOON I swoon....ty

SaraPet said:

Well, there go my chances.

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You'll have PLENTY of other chances, I'm sure

Is Elizabeth Hurley considered "Thin"? If so, that's what I like.

concrete said:

MOON I swoon....ty

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oooh ... short, simple, rhymes ... poetry for me? ty
There's that whole weakened and ready to be taken advantage of thing too, but I digress.

I think it only matters if that's your only criteria, otherwise it's just something you want.

I like tall lanky guys with big noses. *shrug*
I like curvy women.

but that's not the only thing I look for, not the only thing I'm attracted to. And physicality, although important is not all inclusive for my attraction.

Aren't you afraid you might bottom out if she's too shallow??

Me thinks this thread was started to get the chubby girls upset

I like well proportioned women.

LadyFunkenstein said:

Gotta agree with this one - anyone but Coulter and you are A-OK, plasma!

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Only a woman would date her...

It's certainly not admirable or something "special" to prefer fat/overweight/curvy/<insert your non-offensive term of choice here> persons, of whichever sex.

LovetoGiveRoses said:

Is Elizabeth Hurley considered "Thin"? If so, that's what I like.

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Yup...she is also tall. I have the thin part...just wish I had the tall part. Oh well, what is that old saying?....good things come in small packages.

As some other posters have said, it's the overall attitude rather than a particular preference that would point to shallowness IMHO.

I tend to like skinnier geek guys with dark hair and lush red-headed women, myself. But I wound up marrying a moderately overweight bald guy and I'm dating a blonde BBW.

It's the overall connection with a person that matters to me more over looks for long-term relationships, though it never hurts if the person is 'my type' too. I'd consider myself shallow if I decided I'd only date a certain body type/hair color etc. because of the assumption that only those body types would be 'worth it'.

Nothing wrong with being attracted to a woman that is thin or shapley.

Edit: after seeing you tell a depressed person she was depressed because she chose to be I changed my mind.

Yup you are pretty shallow

I agree with Plasmaball. It is not at all shallow for him to date a woman whose weight is his IQ.

plasmaball said:

Simple enough question.

look i am not a thin nut. Long as you are healthy. I just consider it shallow for some reason that i have this want. I dunno

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It's not any shallower to prefer skinnier women than to prefer more full-figured women. It's only shallow if you don't care much about her personality and date a woman mainly for her looks, be she a skinny woman or a fat woman.

Do it isn't...I admit it I can't touch a fat chick... I have my prefernces

Be true to yourself. Go after who you're attracted to.

I made the mistake of trying to date women I didn't have a physical attraction to for years `cause I didn't think I could do any better. People can get needlessly hurt when you do that.

And, in my experience, a skinny man might as well have lesions and a pink triangle tattoed to his chest when it comes to attracting a woman. There are some rare female souls out there who go after said type of guy but, by and large, they run or point their gay male friends in your direction.

Three weeks after I started a multiple-hamburger-a-day diet, and had a ridiculous looking gut as a result, women were striking up conversations with me for the first time. I'm convinced it's in their DNA.