What do your fantasies say about you?

[MrBates2]

I write about very sexual and very explicit sexual encounters with partners that I would not or have not chosen in real life. M4M for example. Honestly, it just flows from my brain to my keyboard, so I just go with it. Now these these moments, these situations are things I would not normally do in real life, or at least I think I would not. Nevertheless, I write about them and it turns me on.

How about you? Are your fantasies things you want to try? Alternatively, are they just figments of erotic imagination?

 

[MayorReynolds]

How about you? Are your fantasies things you want to try? Alternatively, are they just figments of erotic imagination?

It depends.

Those pretty co-eds I wanted to fuck in college, the situations that might have turned into sexual encounters but didn't, the chance to fuck her a second time the morning after instead of us just saying goodbye, those are definitely examples of things I would 'want' to try if given the opportunity to 'make up' for them, but being that I'm happily in a monogamous relationship and would not cheat on my lady, they're just figments of my erotic imagination, as you said. Fortunately I'm lucky enough to have a girlfriend who lets me type up my inner animal and submit it to Lit.

As for stuff like incest or having a harem of women happily lined up to get impregnated by me, definitely just my imagination! I have no attraction whatsoever to anyone in my family and would prefer not to have nine baby-mamas-to-be.

 

[redzinger]

...the situations that might have turned into sexual encounters but didn't...

Many of them, a couple I've written out.

My fantasies say I didn't make the most of being young, busty and horny.

 

[sr71plt]

Some of mine are extending out to things I never did do (and some I have no interest in doing), but many are exercises to capture what I once did do.

 

[MrBates2]

Many of them, a couple I've written out.

My fantasies say I didn't make the most of being young, busty and horny.

ha-ha!

 

[lovecraft68]

Some of mine are based on true events and experiences, my stories of older women, fetish, bdsm and are all r/l based. Incest I have no mother fantasies of my own nor thoughts of my daughters, but have written mother/son father daughter for fun

I do have a serious brother/sister kink and those are fantasies.

My group sex stories have a common theme of an older couple picking up a sweet young inexperienced girl and playing with her(in a fun way, nothing non con or reluctant) and that is a fun fantasy my wife and I talk about, but would never do.

 

[JKendallDane]

I think what my fantasies say about me is I read too many issues of Penthouse Forum in the 1980's, watched way too much gay porn in the 1990's and early 2000's, and have read FAR too many stories on Lit since 2006.

 

[TxRad]

Look under my name over there <<<<

I think that says it all.

 

[patientlee]

I'll never tell.

 

[JKendallDane]

I'll never tell.

We don't want you to tell us, pl...we want you to post your links at YouPorn.

 

[patientlee]

We don't want you to tell us, pl...we want you to post your links at YouPorn.

I'm not sure that's what people mean when they say show, don't tell.

 

[Carnevil9]

Some of my stories are based on true experiences (but generally embellished to raise them above the mundane), some are things I wish I had done or still hope to do, and others are things I would never dream of doing in real life. Sometimes I like to stretch my writing muscles to try to eroticize things I don't really find erotic.

 

[MayorReynolds]

Many of them, a couple I've written out.

My fantasies say I didn't make the most of being young, busty and horny.

Same here. One of my inspirations has been either taking "I wanted it to happen like this" scenarios or the desire to relive experiences and using them as form of sexual therapy. I had major social anxiety and zero confidence during my college years; I mostly stayed confined to my dorm room where I felt safe.

I missed out on a lot of young co-ed pussy that was probably standing not thirty feet from my building, looking up at the windows and getting soaking wet as I played Knights of the Old Republic on my stupid computer.

I need to write erotica to null the pain.

 

[soflabbwlvr]

I'm a sick fuck? My earliest stories were either slightly fictionalized versions of true events or fantasies in which the narrator was an avatar for myself. But I've moved past that phase a long time ago. Now I write pure fiction that in no way represents my actual fantasy life. My more recent stories are entirely separate from my personal fantasies. They are far darker and more twisted than what I dream about.

 

[3113]

Honestly, it just flows from my brain to my keyboard, so I just go with it. Now these these moments, these situations are things I would not normally do in real life, or at least I think I would not. Nevertheless, I write about them and it turns me on.

There are a lot of people who come to this board and discuss such things, both writers (i.e., creating a story to post) and non-writers (just jotting down sexual fantasies, no story, no desire to post). I'd say at lest half have said exactly the same thing. This "flowing out from your brain" of such moments and [sexual] situations" not "normally" done by you or sought out by you is incredibly common among, well, not just erotica writers but anyone who decides to sit and write about their sexual fantasies.

I include myself in that. And, yes, such fantasies do say something about us, but I'm not sure they say anything about us that we don't already know. I think it comes down to two things: (1) The brain is the most sexual organ we've got, and such fantasies pleasure the brain not only with erotic stimulation, but with creative stimulation.

(2) Most sexual fantasies (IMHO) relate to control. Being in control, losing control, or simply making sure you get what you want when you want it. You may not normally seek out what's in the fantasy simply because you fear it might not feel the same as you imagine it—and because real sex is harder to control, and control is what you're after in a fantasy.

The particulars might tell us more (like an LW author is still angry at his cheating wife), but, again, I'm not sure it'd be a surprise. As for the really weird stuff...I'm also not sure I'd like to know what that says about someone....

 

[MrBates2]

There are a lot of people who come to this board and discuss such things, both writers (i.e., creating a story to post) and non-writers (just jotting down sexual fantasies, no story, no desire to post). I'd say at lest half have said exactly the same thing. This "flowing out from your brain" of such moments and [sexual] situations" not "normally" done by you or sought out by you is incredibly common among, well, not just erotica writers but anyone who decides to sit and write about their sexual fantasies.

I include myself in that. And, yes, such fantasies do say something about us, but I'm not sure they say anything about us that we don't already know. I think it comes down to two things: (1) The brain is the most sexual organ we've got, and such fantasies pleasure the brain not only with erotic stimulation, but with creative stimulation.

(2) Most sexual fantasies (IMHO) relate to control. Being in control, losing control, or simply making sure you get what you want when you want it. You may not normally seek out what's in the fantasy simply because you fear it might not feel the same as you imagine it—and because real sex is harder to control, and control is what you're after in a fantasy.

The particulars might tell us more (like an LW author is still angry at his cheating wife), but, again, I'm not sure it'd be a surprise. As for the really weird stuff...I'm also not sure I'd like to know what that says about someone....

I think we don't act on our fantasies because of fear. The fantasy world is safe, so we imagine, and we write.

 

[PayDay]

It's all fake and made up, even the real life encounter stories, especially mine, just like Penthouse Forum.

Even 100% True stories embellish.

Slovotsky's Laws #19: When telling a story, effect trumps truth.

 

[3113]

I think we don't act on our fantasies because of fear. The fantasy world is safe, so we imagine, and we write.

I thought I said that. Perhaps not clearly..."in control of what happens" = "safe."

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I don't need fantasies as I've had a wealth of experiences. What most people lack is audacity. About all fantasies reveal is cowardice.

 

[Swilly]

I don't need fantasies as I've had a wealth of experiences. What most people lack is audacity. About all fantasies reveal is cowardice.

You know better than that, JBJ. Fantasies, sexual or not, allow us to think about, and maybe even spend some time lost in the world of that thinking, without having to deal with the realities such actions would bring if really engaged in.

I'd say it's actually a healthy activity.

 

[Swilly]

My stories really aren't about my fantasies, but then I don't really write stroke stories for the most part. I write a story first; the sex is secondary. I get an idea and go with it.

 

[redzinger]

What most people lack is audacity. About all fantasies reveal is cowardice.

Yep, I can honestly say there was probably an aspect of cowardice.
Lack of money too, to afford to go out and meet people. Lack of self-confidence and being practically paralysed whenever I met anyone I fancied.

I'm still paralysed when I meet someone I really like, that's never gone away.

 

[StrangeLife]

I'll never tell.

They are that bad???

Uh oh...

 

[patientlee]

They are that bad???

Uh oh...

No. I'm just that coy.

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Yep, I can honestly say there was probably an aspect of cowardice.
Lack of money too, to afford to go out and meet people. Lack of self-confidence and being practically paralysed whenever I met anyone I fancied.

I'm still paralysed when I meet someone I really like, that's never gone away.

I find audacity impresses females, and I never got my ass kicked crossing lines.