Looking for a submissive male

SweetDommes

Spoiling our pets
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We are looking again ... still ... whatever. Please read the full profile so that you have at least the basics of what we are looking for - it will save a lot of time for everyone involved.

Major things to avoid doing:
-use netspeak - it's annoying, irritating, and shows a lack of discipline, in my opinion. If you are too lazy to type "you" instead of "u" ... then how do I know that you'll follow through with more difficult tasks like helping with yardwork or housework?
-call me Mistress - you haven't earned that yet, we'll let you know if you are allowed to call us that
-call me ma'am - I just hate it, don't do it.

What we are looking for:
a male submissive to add to our family. Someone that will eventually marry me (Karen - Holly is marrying our first boy), so it has to be someone that can and will get along with my family ... which could be quite a challenge. Someone that we have things in common with, someone that we can love like we love each other and our current boy. This is a family and we intend for it to stay that way, we just want a fourth member. We are looking for a 'full' relationship. This includes everything from cleaning the litter box to snuggling before bed and everything in between. We are not looking for a cuckold, we are not looking for a traditional butler ... we are looking for a pet - which, to us, means someone that we will love, cherish and care for as he serves us (we aren't real big on puppy/pony/other animal play ... we have enough actual animals, thanks).

We also do NOT cyber - don't ask, the answer is always going to be no. We don't want to get involved in other people's relationships, we don't want to dominate anyone over the internet ... neither do anything for us, so we don't do it.

Basic requirements:
*No smoking - I'm seriously allergic to it and cannot tolerate it.
*No illegal drug use, and no legal drug abuse (i.e. occational drinks are ok, but if you need to drink daily, I can promise you that we are not a good match ... )
*Must be US resident/citizen.
*Must be relocatable (realistically ... we aren't expecting this to happen tomorrow, but we don't want to wait years) - this means that we are not interested in online relationships. It must eventually move to r/t.
*We prefer Caucasians
*Single - If you are cheating on your wife/girlfriend/whomever, we aren't going to be interested, no matter how strenuously you state that you'll leave her for us ... that's not how we work and we won't talk to you further.
*We are only looking for guys born from 1981 to 1971 (ages change, birth years don't LOL) - we have found that much younger or much older just don't have anything in common with us, exceptions may be made if you are close to the age range, but it's very unlikely
*Must be able to get along with others - this includes people and animals. We are poly (two Dommes and a sub, looking for a second sub) and we own a small zoo which includes cats, dogs, rodents, birds and reptiles/amphibians, so we definitely give preference to animal lovers. Included in this is the fact that you must not have any delusions about Pitbulls being evil monsters or have anything against little dogs like Shih Tzus or French Bulldogs.
*Must not have any delusions about splitting up the already established group (Holly and I have been together for since 1999, and rob has been with us since 2003 - we're pretty secure and stable ... don't try to destabalize the group)
*we only want males - we don't do forced fem, we aren't into crossdressing (nothing against it, just doesn't do anything for either of us) and if you are female, or list yourself as such (and that includes a 'male' listed profile with a female name) - we aren't going to be interested. This means no femsubs, no people who identify as female, no couples, etc. When we want fem, Holly and I have each other.
*Must be able to interact on a "vanilla" level, as well as a D/s level (we want this to be a long-term thing, potentially including marriage - if we can't take you out in public comfortably, we aren't interested)
*Must be able to live out in the middle of B.F.E. and preferably will enjoy our corn/bean fields as much as we do
*If you have a latex fetish, this isn't the place for you - latex allergies suck, but are an unfortunate reality.
*Please put something in your message that lets us know that you really did read the profile - starting with: do not call us "Mistress(es)" as you are not owned by us yet, and do not call me "Ma'am" because I hate it. Telling us some of your non-BDSM interests would be good. A one line message is not good (a one word message is even worse). If you don't have a picture up on your profile, we expect a tasteful pic to be sent relatively quickly (within a week of initial contact if we are still talking). If you use an obvious form letter, I will not reply. If you mention your sex life/experience (or lack there of), I will not reply. If you send us inappropriate pictures, I will not reply. If you write us a well thought out, polite message that shows you really did read the profile, I will reply to you even if I feel that we are entirely incompatable.
 
Wow... you sound good. Unfortunately, I'm not submissive.

Good luck in your quest.
 
Thanks. It would be nice to be done looking - but we're picky, of course, so that makes it more difficult LOL
 
Why thank you.

Honestly, I don't really expect anything of this. We had a similar one a few years back that was just entitled "seeking" - got us nowhere. But I thought I'd try again, seeing as we havent' had any luck anywhere else (online or offline) either.
 
Wow, very few things on here that restricts me.

Of course, they would have to be the most important ones :)
 
Unfortunate, but true. We'd rather not have to worry about some asshole in immigration deporting our boy lol
 
Have you tried alt.com? There seems to be quite a community there, and I think it's free for women. Best of luck though!
 
alt.com sucks. we deleted our account there years ago - too many married men looking to get their rocks off as they "travel for business" combined with too many guys who have only watched porn to get their idea of FemDom. Sorry, but 24/7 whips, leather, and cages when not "in use" isn't realistic. So, yeah - we're here, we're on collarme.com, and I have a profile on another, non-kinky site. If it happens, it happens, if it doesn't - we're good with being a triad.
 
This isn't for everyone, and we know it. We try to be as clear as possible with our expectations so that we don't end up with the boys straight out of high school with the porno image of FemDom stuck in their heads (take a pic which one they are thinking with ...). We also don't want the guys who are married and looking for a dish on the side.

So, yeah, we're pretty specific and picky. It's about the only way to find someone compatable with us so that we're all 4 happy with the end group.
 
BUMP!

Wow, you two (three) sound very interesting! I wish you the best of luck in your search. Although it sounds like you're content with what you've got if you don't find the "right" sub, which is a good place to be.

Possibly a dream come true if the timing was right! :)
 
I am married and not applying

I think the problem finding such a person, assuming a problem does exist..is: People are concerned and worry about being used...in what they percieve to be an unfair way. Most guys...I myself, love the sub role, but want the sex to be there..and because we also want the sex...they say we top from the bottom! Finding the fellow who just wants to serve must be very difficult. I wonder if out of the 24hours if at least 1 hour was spent meeting his submissive sexual needs...more men would be willing to serve for the other 23..Hrs
I think the "do the chores, clean the house, give me a massage...and later you can masturbate..doesnt appeal to many of us. But I know for a fact many Dommes seek this and who knows maybe there are a lot of guys out there willing to do it...for more than a couple of days..and more power to the dommes that find them..
 
Just curious - where did you get that we don't intend to have sex with our boys? I did specify that we aren't looking for a cuckold or a traditional butler ... so I'm not sure why you would think that.

I'm really not trying to be snarky here - I genuinely want to know. If I've worded something badly, I should edit it (again ... this profile is constantly morphing).
 
Orientation isn't as important as a willingness to please. Bi is a bonus, but not required.
 
My apologies Sweet Domme
I assumed perhaps incorrectly so...that the sex the domme offers may not be quite the sex th emale wants..
In my case itisnt sexual relief I want is sexual abuse...the cock and balls touched and handled but in a abusive way...and I ask that that be often and plentiful...I thought maybe the sub male was allowed to cum but that isnt what I would want..just cumming The sexual thrill of the CBT and the ritual involved...I have noproblem doing as Im told as long as her strong hand is on it and I feel the pain
you are correct..I jumped to a conclusion ..
 
It might not be quite what he wants at the time - but as it's (supposed to be) about pleasing the Dominant partner first, then well ... they get what they want. If the submissive does a good enough job, then they may get what they want as well ...

There are Dommes who don't have sex with their boys - we do have sex with ours, when and how we want it. If what he wants is the same as what we want, then great - if not, then he'd better do a good enough job to earn what he wants.
 
You are so incredibly sexy. Someone will be lucky to be dominated and controlled by you!
 
I think the "do the chores, clean the house, give me a massage...and later you can masturbate..doesnt appeal to many of us. But I know for a fact many Dommes seek this and who knows maybe there are a lot of guys out there willing to do it...for more than a couple of days..and more power to the dommes that find them..[/QUOTE]

Oh fuck, reading the bit above, I'm being domed and didn't know :D

On a more serious note, the lifestyle that your add portrays' has me fascinated, would you allow a film crew in for a week or two?
 
Once again, for some reason, someone has the wrong impression. Why do you think that their only release would be masturbation? And anyway, we are looking for a boy who gets pleasure from serving and seeing his Partner happy - if he wouldn't be happy in the situation, we wouldn't be interested in him.

As for the film crew - absolutely not. Our lives and lifestyle are private and not for public viewing (or wanking).
 
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